Pick Your Battles

So many marriages have so many problems not because of anything major such as adultery, abuse, alcoholism, drugs etc but because of the little nit-picking things. It is so very important to pick your battles within your marriage.

When it comes to nagging over something that is small really take the time to decide if it is really worth starting an discussion or even saying anything at all. There is nothing worse to a husband than a nagging wife, just as there is nothing worse to a wife as a nagging husband. We all do things that iritate our spouse that we see as no big deal. Just as we do it to them, they will do it to us. It is not up to us to point out every single little thing.

For example, if your spouse squeezes the toothpaste from the middle and you insist on squeezing it from the bottom don't make it a issue. Get two different tubes of toothpaste. If it is not going to effect your marriage in the big picture then move on. Your spouse will get the clue. Take time to read your spouse's body language, you can say anything out of your mouth. However, your body language will tell you a person much more and can not be hidden as easily.

Stop majoring in the minor stuff and turning mole hills into mountains. Pick your battles and take time to dicuss the major issues that come in marriage as you develop your relationship with the trinity.