Husbands be a Ephesians 5 husband to your wife. In this chapter it says, "Husbands, love your wife as Christ loved the church." Your wife should not only feel, but know that you love her unconditionally at all times even when times are hard.
When a wife knows that her husband loves her unconditionallly she will be more secure within her marriage and with herself. Women need to know that she and the children are secure through her husband. No where in the Bible are women given this charge of loving her husband.
When women do not have this security, it opens the door to uneasiness and insecurity both within her marriage and herself. Husbands should be the first person a wife turns to in times of unrest and trouble. As a response, husbands need to be able to provide or do whatever it takes to rectify the situation. This is not to say that wives expect their husbands to work miracles at every problem or circumstance, it is to say that she needs to know that he will actively and diligently pursue a solution. When a husband does this, even if the wife does not necessarily agree with the method she will strengthen her respect.
Husbands and wives are two individuals that have come together as one. It doesn't mean that they will agree on everything. God created us to have our own mind, and the Holy Spirit speaks to each of us differently at different times. You should be able to come together in agreement. Even if you disagree on the course, you should agree on the destination
Showing posts with label husband. Show all posts
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Saturday, July 4, 2009
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Blended Family
More than ever there are more and more blended families. When one parent remarries it is important to realize that the other parent becomes the parent. For example if mom remarries or marries someone, her husband becomes father to the child(ren). The opposite is also true if a father remarries or marries again.
This does not mean that the child's relationship with their biological father ceases to exist or that they must stop loving, honoring, or respecting their biological father. It does mean that the non biological parent must treat their spouses children as their own. Just because they did not procreate to have that child there should be absolutely no difference in how they raise the child.
When you marry, you must become a family unit as husband, wife, and children. You are to be the authority of the children. They are your children. The word "step-children" is completely worldly. Do not allow any form of disrespect towards the new parent from the children.
The children will take time to adjust, but will the proper guidance and love they will learn to respect, honor, and cherish their time with you. Exercise patience and love with them at all times.
This does not mean that the child's relationship with their biological father ceases to exist or that they must stop loving, honoring, or respecting their biological father. It does mean that the non biological parent must treat their spouses children as their own. Just because they did not procreate to have that child there should be absolutely no difference in how they raise the child.
When you marry, you must become a family unit as husband, wife, and children. You are to be the authority of the children. They are your children. The word "step-children" is completely worldly. Do not allow any form of disrespect towards the new parent from the children.
The children will take time to adjust, but will the proper guidance and love they will learn to respect, honor, and cherish their time with you. Exercise patience and love with them at all times.
Saturday, June 20, 2009
Romance Is Key
Romance is key within your marriage. How romantic a couple is during the course of their marriage is a true testament to how much they are in love. When a husband does something romantic for his wife for absolutely no reason at all without any hints dropped by his wife, it can do wonders for their marriage.
What husbands may consider cheesy or corny women consider sweet and romantic. It shows wives that their husbands are willing to pay careful and close attention to the little details. Women are genetically coded to be more feeling, emotional, and the ambiance of their environment are important to them.
Many husbands may not appreciate a candlelight dinner the same way a wife would, but just spending time watching sports on television with him, may be what he wants. Ask your spouse what a perfect night alone with you would look like. You may not be able to re-inact the evening completely, but you can make a effort to come as close as possible. Husbands, your wife might tell you a dinner at a cafe in Paris on a terrace. You might not get to Paris, but you can arrange for a nice candle light dinner in the backyard under the stars with some soft music to dance the night away.
What husbands may consider cheesy or corny women consider sweet and romantic. It shows wives that their husbands are willing to pay careful and close attention to the little details. Women are genetically coded to be more feeling, emotional, and the ambiance of their environment are important to them.
Many husbands may not appreciate a candlelight dinner the same way a wife would, but just spending time watching sports on television with him, may be what he wants. Ask your spouse what a perfect night alone with you would look like. You may not be able to re-inact the evening completely, but you can make a effort to come as close as possible. Husbands, your wife might tell you a dinner at a cafe in Paris on a terrace. You might not get to Paris, but you can arrange for a nice candle light dinner in the backyard under the stars with some soft music to dance the night away.
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Husbands-Please Remember Important Dates
I don't know why, but it is important to wives that their husbands remember the important dates within the family unit. Often times when a husband forgets an anniversary or birthday you would think the world is coming to a end.
Women want to know that her husband pays attention to the details. This is hard for husbands because they just want to know the headlines, wives want to know the details of the situation. When husbands show to their wives that they are willing to know the details, it shows that they are paying attention to them and they feel love.
This is evident when a husband might remember the general gist of a conversation, but the wife will remember every word down to what her husband was wearing at the time of the conversation.
Husbands are bound to be forgetful when it comes to these important dates so do yourself a favor and put them on your daily calender or palm-pilot for next year. Take time out to pay attention to the details, your will be greatly rewarded.
Women want to know that her husband pays attention to the details. This is hard for husbands because they just want to know the headlines, wives want to know the details of the situation. When husbands show to their wives that they are willing to know the details, it shows that they are paying attention to them and they feel love.
This is evident when a husband might remember the general gist of a conversation, but the wife will remember every word down to what her husband was wearing at the time of the conversation.
Husbands are bound to be forgetful when it comes to these important dates so do yourself a favor and put them on your daily calender or palm-pilot for next year. Take time out to pay attention to the details, your will be greatly rewarded.
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Pick Your Battles
So many marriages have so many problems not because of anything major such as adultery, abuse, alcoholism, drugs etc but because of the little nit-picking things. It is so very important to pick your battles within your marriage.
When it comes to nagging over something that is small really take the time to decide if it is really worth starting an discussion or even saying anything at all. There is nothing worse to a husband than a nagging wife, just as there is nothing worse to a wife as a nagging husband. We all do things that iritate our spouse that we see as no big deal. Just as we do it to them, they will do it to us. It is not up to us to point out every single little thing.
For example, if your spouse squeezes the toothpaste from the middle and you insist on squeezing it from the bottom don't make it a issue. Get two different tubes of toothpaste. If it is not going to effect your marriage in the big picture then move on. Your spouse will get the clue. Take time to read your spouse's body language, you can say anything out of your mouth. However, your body language will tell you a person much more and can not be hidden as easily.
Stop majoring in the minor stuff and turning mole hills into mountains. Pick your battles and take time to dicuss the major issues that come in marriage as you develop your relationship with the trinity.
When it comes to nagging over something that is small really take the time to decide if it is really worth starting an discussion or even saying anything at all. There is nothing worse to a husband than a nagging wife, just as there is nothing worse to a wife as a nagging husband. We all do things that iritate our spouse that we see as no big deal. Just as we do it to them, they will do it to us. It is not up to us to point out every single little thing.
For example, if your spouse squeezes the toothpaste from the middle and you insist on squeezing it from the bottom don't make it a issue. Get two different tubes of toothpaste. If it is not going to effect your marriage in the big picture then move on. Your spouse will get the clue. Take time to read your spouse's body language, you can say anything out of your mouth. However, your body language will tell you a person much more and can not be hidden as easily.
Stop majoring in the minor stuff and turning mole hills into mountains. Pick your battles and take time to dicuss the major issues that come in marriage as you develop your relationship with the trinity.
Thursday, June 4, 2009
Authority in the Marriage
When God created marriage, he created it in order. Father, Son, Husband, Wife, and then children. Ephesians 5:22-33 talks about the husband being the head of the wife as Jesus is the Head of the church. The husband is to cleave to his wife and love their wives as their own bodies."
Husbands are to ensure that they are there to lead their wives into a direct relationship with the trinity. " He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word.
The word of God says in Matthew 23:11 says, " He that is greatest among you shall be your servant." Husbands, you are to serve your wives. Proverbs 12:4 says, " A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband."
Women are life givers to the seed that is planted by their husband, whether it is good or bad. When Eve ate the forbidden fruit in the Garden of Eden, God held Adam both accountable and responsible. It was not considered sinful until Adam ate the fruit.
Whatever you do, do not allow your marriage to get out of order. Stay under God's authority and seek Him first at all times and He will continue to bless your marriage.
Husbands are to ensure that they are there to lead their wives into a direct relationship with the trinity. " He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word.
The word of God says in Matthew 23:11 says, " He that is greatest among you shall be your servant." Husbands, you are to serve your wives. Proverbs 12:4 says, " A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband."
Women are life givers to the seed that is planted by their husband, whether it is good or bad. When Eve ate the forbidden fruit in the Garden of Eden, God held Adam both accountable and responsible. It was not considered sinful until Adam ate the fruit.
Whatever you do, do not allow your marriage to get out of order. Stay under God's authority and seek Him first at all times and He will continue to bless your marriage.
Saturday, January 24, 2009
What a Wife Needs from her Husband
Godly women want their husbands to be a man of Godly conduct, character, and commitment. Godly women want to know that their husband is strongly rooted in the word of God. In Ephesians 5:25 it says, "Husbands, love your wives , just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her." This is a tremendous charge for the husbands. This means that husbands are to give themselves to their wives as Christ gave himself to the church.
The most important quality that a man wants from his wife is honor. In order for honor present itself, husbands must not try to force it onto their wife. Godly wives want their husbands to make things right in the home. They want leadership and security for themselves and their familly. There are three main characteristics that every husband should possess. They are prophet, priest, and savior head.
To be a prophet they diligently seek a relationship with the trinity of God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. This is where the responsibility of initiating prayer and bringing the entire family closer to the trinity lays.
To be a priest means that husbands senitivilly and sacrafically gives for his wife's needs and helps her deal with spiritual, financial, mental, emotional and family needs. Men in general are extremely sensitive to their own needs and need to show that same sensitivity to the needs of their wife.
Ephesians 5:23, "For the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ is the head of he church, and He is the savior of the body." Husbands be the Savior head in your family. Anyone in the family should be able to come to you to get a understanding of the word. They should know that you will provide leadership according to the word of God.
When husbands live according to these charges according to the word of God, then their wives will florish. It will allow wives to fulfil their gifts and live their lives according to the plan and purpose of God.
The most important quality that a man wants from his wife is honor. In order for honor present itself, husbands must not try to force it onto their wife. Godly wives want their husbands to make things right in the home. They want leadership and security for themselves and their familly. There are three main characteristics that every husband should possess. They are prophet, priest, and savior head.
To be a prophet they diligently seek a relationship with the trinity of God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. This is where the responsibility of initiating prayer and bringing the entire family closer to the trinity lays.
To be a priest means that husbands senitivilly and sacrafically gives for his wife's needs and helps her deal with spiritual, financial, mental, emotional and family needs. Men in general are extremely sensitive to their own needs and need to show that same sensitivity to the needs of their wife.
Ephesians 5:23, "For the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ is the head of he church, and He is the savior of the body." Husbands be the Savior head in your family. Anyone in the family should be able to come to you to get a understanding of the word. They should know that you will provide leadership according to the word of God.
When husbands live according to these charges according to the word of God, then their wives will florish. It will allow wives to fulfil their gifts and live their lives according to the plan and purpose of God.
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