Be A Ephesians 5 Husband

Husbands be a Ephesians 5 husband to your wife. In this chapter it says, "Husbands, love your wife as Christ loved the church." Your wife should not only feel, but know that you love her unconditionally at all times even when times are hard.

When a wife knows that her husband loves her unconditionallly she will be more secure within her marriage and with herself. Women need to know that she and the children are secure through her husband. No where in the Bible are women given this charge of loving her husband.

When women do not have this security, it opens the door to uneasiness and insecurity both within her marriage and herself. Husbands should be the first person a wife turns to in times of unrest and trouble. As a response, husbands need to be able to provide or do whatever it takes to rectify the situation. This is not to say that wives expect their husbands to work miracles at every problem or circumstance, it is to say that she needs to know that he will actively and diligently pursue a solution. When a husband does this, even if the wife does not necessarily agree with the method she will strengthen her respect.

Husbands and wives are two individuals that have come together as one. It doesn't mean that they will agree on everything. God created us to have our own mind, and the Holy Spirit speaks to each of us differently at different times. You should be able to come together in agreement. Even if you disagree on the course, you should agree on the destination

Be A Proverbs 31 Wife

It always gets me when people say that they do not have a instruction manual to life. That is the one of the biggest lies ever told - it's the Bible. Wives be a Proverbs 31 women for your husband. Proverbs 31:10-12 says, "Who can find a virtuous wife? for her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts her. So he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life."

Wives this means a couple of things. First it means that your husbands are to find you. Second it means that your worth is far above rubies to her husband. Third it means that her husband trust her so that he will suffer not lack. Fourth it means that you always edify your husband each and every day regardless of what the day.

The remaining verses discus how a wife is to care for the matters of the household. Whenever you want to know what to do as a wife study Proverbs 31 and allow the Holy Spirit to teach you to be the wife that God intended for you to be towards your husband.

Always go to the word of God for direction. Other wives may be good wives, but they are good wives to their husbands. What is good for your husband is different and the Holy Spirit will speak to you for your marriage.

Celebrate Each Other

Although the big things matter, we need to take more time to celebrate the small things that we see in each other. We already know the conduct, character, and commitment of our spouse, but when is the last time you noticed something small.

Husbands, would you notice if your wife changed her hairstyle or perfume? Sometimes you need to major in the minor. Often times a bunch of little things can add up to be more than the whole. It makes you appreciate what you do have in each other and not to focus on what you don't have.

Wives, would you notice if your husband changed his hairstyle or cologne? It goes both ways. You can't expect him to notice you when you don't notice him. It shows that you pay attention to each other and brings you closer as husband and wife. Let the other know that they are special enough to pay attention towards.

This is not to say that you need to neglect the big picture, but what it does say is that when you focus on the small picture the big picture will become much clearer.

Husbands-Please Remember Important Dates

I don't know why, but it is important to wives that their husbands remember the important dates within the family unit. Often times when a husband forgets an anniversary or birthday you would think the world is coming to a end.

Women want to know that her husband pays attention to the details. This is hard for husbands because they just want to know the headlines, wives want to know the details of the situation. When husbands show to their wives that they are willing to know the details, it shows that they are paying attention to them and they feel love.

This is evident when a husband might remember the general gist of a conversation, but the wife will remember every word down to what her husband was wearing at the time of the conversation.

Husbands are bound to be forgetful when it comes to these important dates so do yourself a favor and put them on your daily calender or palm-pilot for next year. Take time out to pay attention to the details, your will be greatly rewarded.

Authority in the Marriage

When God created marriage, he created it in order. Father, Son, Husband, Wife, and then children. Ephesians 5:22-33 talks about the husband being the head of the wife as Jesus is the Head of the church. The husband is to cleave to his wife and love their wives as their own bodies."

Husbands are to ensure that they are there to lead their wives into a direct relationship with the trinity. " He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word.

The word of God says in Matthew 23:11 says, " He that is greatest among you shall be your servant." Husbands, you are to serve your wives. Proverbs 12:4 says, " A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband."

Women are life givers to the seed that is planted by their husband, whether it is good or bad. When Eve ate the forbidden fruit in the Garden of Eden, God held Adam both accountable and responsible. It was not considered sinful until Adam ate the fruit.

Whatever you do, do not allow your marriage to get out of order. Stay under God's authority and seek Him first at all times and He will continue to bless your marriage.