As hard as it is sometimes, as long as your spouse is not going to cause grave danger to your family you have to let them fall. God teaches throughout the Bible that we will fall from time to time because we are not perfect. We all know that Jesus was the only perfect man and we are continually being perfected.
Sometimes God is putting your spouse through something so that when he feels it is time He can bring them out of it. Then once they come out of it, they can see that only God can do it. Regardless of how much we love them, it is nothing in comparison to the way that God loves them.
Step back and allow God to work with them. When the come out of it, they will be much stronger as they build their relationship with the trinity of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit.
Let them know that you are there for them in the natural and that you will love them continuously with unconditional love. Let God be God.
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Thursday, June 25, 2009
Saturday, June 20, 2009
What Stage Is Your Marriage
Every marriage goes through various stages, the honey moon, the party over and the mature love stage. Every stage is pretty self explanatory, but let me explain each stage to you.
In the honeymoon stage it is what we all dream about, the endless sex, the candlelight dinners, forever romance my spouse can do no wrong. You love their dirty underwear stage. This is when people often say they are glowing.
Next comes the party's over stage. This is often a rocky time for a lot of marriages. Often times then is when reality hits and you may begin to second guess your decision to marry your spouse. It is when we turn our attention elsewhere and if you did not build your marriage on the rock of Jesus as in Matthew 7:24 then your marriage can fail.
The third stage is the best is yet to come and is the most rewarding stage, because it is when you are mature in your love for each other regardless of each others imperfections, personal interests and you know that no matter what happens nothing besides death will cause you to part from one another. It is the most rewarding of all of the stages.
Every marriage has to go through each of the three stages. The length of time that you spend in the honeymoon and party's over stages will vary depending on your marriage. However, you must go through them to enter the best is yet to come stage.
In the honeymoon stage it is what we all dream about, the endless sex, the candlelight dinners, forever romance my spouse can do no wrong. You love their dirty underwear stage. This is when people often say they are glowing.
Next comes the party's over stage. This is often a rocky time for a lot of marriages. Often times then is when reality hits and you may begin to second guess your decision to marry your spouse. It is when we turn our attention elsewhere and if you did not build your marriage on the rock of Jesus as in Matthew 7:24 then your marriage can fail.
The third stage is the best is yet to come and is the most rewarding stage, because it is when you are mature in your love for each other regardless of each others imperfections, personal interests and you know that no matter what happens nothing besides death will cause you to part from one another. It is the most rewarding of all of the stages.
Every marriage has to go through each of the three stages. The length of time that you spend in the honeymoon and party's over stages will vary depending on your marriage. However, you must go through them to enter the best is yet to come stage.
Monday, June 15, 2009
Dealing With The Major Decisions
Throughout the course of life, there are times when you have to make major decisions that will affect your marriage. These definitely deserve time for deep conversation and time for each of you to come together in prayer both on your own and together.
There always should be a format that is used for these type of decisions.
1.) Seek counsel from the trinity.
Go to the trinity of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit first and foremost. Let them guide you in your final decision. Be careful of counsel from outside sources. If you do seek outside counsel be sure that it is Godly and not just someone else's opinion.
2.) Focus on the final outcome and not on the course, by counting the costs.
Be sure the outcome is what is best for your family and marriage in the long run. Just because the course looks attractive or fun, it may no be what is in the best interest of your family and marriage.
3.) Do not rush into anything.
These decisions take time to really consider and to put up in prayer. Make sure they are done in God's time and not your own. If you don't know what to do, then it is better to do nothing than to rush and do the wrong thing. God will tell you what to do when He wants you to do it.
Remember God is soverign and reveal what he wants to you, when you need it. You can't rush God. Matthew 7:24 teaches us to build our house on the rock of Jesus and your house will not fall."
There always should be a format that is used for these type of decisions.
1.) Seek counsel from the trinity.
Go to the trinity of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit first and foremost. Let them guide you in your final decision. Be careful of counsel from outside sources. If you do seek outside counsel be sure that it is Godly and not just someone else's opinion.
2.) Focus on the final outcome and not on the course, by counting the costs.
Be sure the outcome is what is best for your family and marriage in the long run. Just because the course looks attractive or fun, it may no be what is in the best interest of your family and marriage.
3.) Do not rush into anything.
These decisions take time to really consider and to put up in prayer. Make sure they are done in God's time and not your own. If you don't know what to do, then it is better to do nothing than to rush and do the wrong thing. God will tell you what to do when He wants you to do it.
Remember God is soverign and reveal what he wants to you, when you need it. You can't rush God. Matthew 7:24 teaches us to build our house on the rock of Jesus and your house will not fall."
Monday, June 8, 2009
My Spouse Is Not Saved
More often than not one spouse or the other becomes saved and baptized with the Holy Spirit at the same time. Everyone gives their salvation at different times as God continues to move in each one of us separately.
In 1 Peter 3:1 says, "Wives, be in subjection to your own husband, that, if any obey not the word, they may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives." This is especially true when wives are saved and baptized with the Holy Spirit prior to their husbands. It is not for the wives to continually preach to her husband. What wives see as trying to teach their husbands to bring them closer to the trinity, husbands will often see as nagging and will resist as a result.
It is better for wives to continue to be a credible witness as she gives glory to God. Husbands will respond when they see how the trinity lives within his wife. Be a example of how to live.
In Ephesians 5:24 it says, "So let the wives be to their own husbands in everything." So husbands, if you are saved and baptized with the Holy Spirit and your wife is not, continue to lead her as a man of God. Continue to be a credible witness and your life will give life to the seed that you plant.
Regardless of how your spouse acts, always continue to allow Jesus to live through you in your character, conduct, and commitment.
In 1 Peter 3:1 says, "Wives, be in subjection to your own husband, that, if any obey not the word, they may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives." This is especially true when wives are saved and baptized with the Holy Spirit prior to their husbands. It is not for the wives to continually preach to her husband. What wives see as trying to teach their husbands to bring them closer to the trinity, husbands will often see as nagging and will resist as a result.
It is better for wives to continue to be a credible witness as she gives glory to God. Husbands will respond when they see how the trinity lives within his wife. Be a example of how to live.
In Ephesians 5:24 it says, "So let the wives be to their own husbands in everything." So husbands, if you are saved and baptized with the Holy Spirit and your wife is not, continue to lead her as a man of God. Continue to be a credible witness and your life will give life to the seed that you plant.
Regardless of how your spouse acts, always continue to allow Jesus to live through you in your character, conduct, and commitment.
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
The Power of Submission
Can I just take a moment to say that as husbands and wives we need to stop listening the world's definition of submission and trust in the word of God? In Ephesians 5:21-25, "Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ Jesus. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."
Simply put, if every marriage put their trust into these few scriptures the divorce rate would sharply decrease and there would be many more happy and successful marriages. If you read the scripture carefully, you would see that the first command is for both husband and wife to submit to each other as they would submit to Christ Jesus. Before a wife can submit to her husband the husband must take the leadership role and show her submission. Once this happens the wife can and should submit to her husband as she would submit to God.
It is absolutely crucial that the husband feels that he is honored and respected by his wife. When a wife submits to her husband she is showing him honor and respect. In return the husband, according to the word of God will go to the ends of the earth for his wife.
The following scripture gives the husband the charge of loving their wives as Christ loved the church. This means that they are to make their wife's needs and interests ahead of their own. This is very interesting because no where in the Bible does the word of God give this charge to wives.
In 1Cornithians11:8, "For man was not made from woman, but woman from man. Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man." Remember we are taught that Adam was created first and then Eve was created from the rib of Adam. So husbands take your God given role as leader as you take authority over your wives. Caution, remember this does not mean that you are king and what you say is law. This means that you show your wives that you can be a leader and love with agape love. Wives, this does not mean that you are to be a foot stool with no ground. It does mean that you are to honor and respect your husbands as he continues to follow Jesus.
Simply put, if every marriage put their trust into these few scriptures the divorce rate would sharply decrease and there would be many more happy and successful marriages. If you read the scripture carefully, you would see that the first command is for both husband and wife to submit to each other as they would submit to Christ Jesus. Before a wife can submit to her husband the husband must take the leadership role and show her submission. Once this happens the wife can and should submit to her husband as she would submit to God.
It is absolutely crucial that the husband feels that he is honored and respected by his wife. When a wife submits to her husband she is showing him honor and respect. In return the husband, according to the word of God will go to the ends of the earth for his wife.
The following scripture gives the husband the charge of loving their wives as Christ loved the church. This means that they are to make their wife's needs and interests ahead of their own. This is very interesting because no where in the Bible does the word of God give this charge to wives.
In 1Cornithians11:8, "For man was not made from woman, but woman from man. Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man." Remember we are taught that Adam was created first and then Eve was created from the rib of Adam. So husbands take your God given role as leader as you take authority over your wives. Caution, remember this does not mean that you are king and what you say is law. This means that you show your wives that you can be a leader and love with agape love. Wives, this does not mean that you are to be a foot stool with no ground. It does mean that you are to honor and respect your husbands as he continues to follow Jesus.
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