During the course of your marriage you will undoubtedly experience trials and tribulations. There may be times when you don't want to or don't know how to express love to your spouse.
When my husband and I got married, during our ceremony the pastor gave each of us a beautiful long stemed red rose to be our first gift exchanged between each other as husband and wife. The red rose has always been a symbol of love.
When those times occur, go get a single red rose or more if you like and place it in a spot that your spouse will notice. Even when times are hard, it will let your spouse know that you still love them and are willing to go through the hard times together. Even if your spouse doesn't respond favorably or even acknowledge your gift in the natural it will touch their spirit at some level.
Many times it is what we do more than what we say. It may take time for your spouse to respond, but we must stay the course and continue to express love to our spouse. Even when your marriage is going through a high point, leave the gift of the red rose. If you only do it when times are tough, your spouse may begin to suspect things are not as good as they think when they do receive a rose.
Showing posts with label agape love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label agape love. Show all posts
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Love Your Spouse According to God
How many times has your spouse done something that deeply offended, hurt, or disgusted you to the pit of your soul. Have you ever felt dead when you look at them or would rather kiss a venemous snake than them? God is all power and can and will deliver you from all of the above if you delight yourself in the Lord at all times.
In John 15:14, "These things I command you, that you love one another." God just commanded you to love others. God wants you to love unconditionally the way that He loves you. Regardless of what the other has done, said, or even thought they are still a child of God. They were created just as you were created.
Therefore, you must love according to the word of God not according to their ways. In Matthew 5:44, "But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who spifefully use you and persecute you." This means that even when things seem impossible and hatefullness, deceit, and despair, are within the situation or circumstance you must love them.
In 1Corinthians 13:4, "Love suffers long and is kind: love does not envy, love does not parade itself, is not puffed up, does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil, does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, endures all things." This scripture is one that is commonly quoted, but it is what I consider to be one of the strongest scriptures in the Bible. It expresses the love of God. It is the type of love that should be shared with your spouse.
Love is something that knows no limit, there is absolutely nothing that it can not conquer. God loves each and every one of us for who He created us to be. Love your spouse according to the word of God and where there is death, the Holy Spirit can restore life. God is not concerned with individual ways, so love according to God and not their ways.
Do not misunderstand trust for love. Just because you love someone does not mean that you trust them. If you know someone steals, continue to love them but still watch your belongings. Trust in God at all times. The Bible teaches us that as husband and wife, you are to cleave to one another and become one. There will be problems, trials, and tribulations within your marriage. However, solve them according to the word of God and do not lean to your own understanding. You must put on the full armor of God to fight your battles, not the changing nature of man.
In John 15:14, "These things I command you, that you love one another." God just commanded you to love others. God wants you to love unconditionally the way that He loves you. Regardless of what the other has done, said, or even thought they are still a child of God. They were created just as you were created.
Therefore, you must love according to the word of God not according to their ways. In Matthew 5:44, "But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who spifefully use you and persecute you." This means that even when things seem impossible and hatefullness, deceit, and despair, are within the situation or circumstance you must love them.
In 1Corinthians 13:4, "Love suffers long and is kind: love does not envy, love does not parade itself, is not puffed up, does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil, does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, endures all things." This scripture is one that is commonly quoted, but it is what I consider to be one of the strongest scriptures in the Bible. It expresses the love of God. It is the type of love that should be shared with your spouse.
Love is something that knows no limit, there is absolutely nothing that it can not conquer. God loves each and every one of us for who He created us to be. Love your spouse according to the word of God and where there is death, the Holy Spirit can restore life. God is not concerned with individual ways, so love according to God and not their ways.
Do not misunderstand trust for love. Just because you love someone does not mean that you trust them. If you know someone steals, continue to love them but still watch your belongings. Trust in God at all times. The Bible teaches us that as husband and wife, you are to cleave to one another and become one. There will be problems, trials, and tribulations within your marriage. However, solve them according to the word of God and do not lean to your own understanding. You must put on the full armor of God to fight your battles, not the changing nature of man.
Saturday, January 24, 2009
Let Your Spouse Be Your Absolute Best Friend
While it is true that every woman needs other women as friends and every man needs other men friends, your absolute closest and absolute best friend needs to be your spouse. This must hold true in your marriage in order for you to have a 100% chance of happiness.
You must be best friends with your spouse if you want to protect it. Value each other with intimacy. When God created Adam and Eve, he created them completely exposed to each other in all aspects. There should be absolutely nothing that you can not expose to your spouse.
The best way to begin a wonderful marriage is to take the time to develop a strong friendship from the start. After your relationship with God, let your friendship with each other be your foundation on which you build with agape love.
Proverbs 17:17 says, " A friend loves at all times." You should be a safe place for each other and be there for each other in times of adversity. Be faithful to each other at all times. You are never best friends with someone when there is unfaithfulness. Don't ever threaten any type of unfaithfulness, it will bring trouble and strife in the marriage. It will give the devil a foot hold to grab.
Always believe in each other. When the world is continually telling you that you are a failure, you should know that in the natural world your spouse is on your side when things seem impossible. As a spouse, you should always speak belief and positive destiny.
Learn to celebrate your differences as men and women. Don't be ashamed to show your true self. Be glorious as you accept your differences without rejection. There should be proactive communication in which all topics and circumstances are discussed. Just because you don't agree on everything does not give you the right to condemn your spouse. Love them with agape love at all times.
You must be best friends with your spouse if you want to protect it. Value each other with intimacy. When God created Adam and Eve, he created them completely exposed to each other in all aspects. There should be absolutely nothing that you can not expose to your spouse.
The best way to begin a wonderful marriage is to take the time to develop a strong friendship from the start. After your relationship with God, let your friendship with each other be your foundation on which you build with agape love.
Proverbs 17:17 says, " A friend loves at all times." You should be a safe place for each other and be there for each other in times of adversity. Be faithful to each other at all times. You are never best friends with someone when there is unfaithfulness. Don't ever threaten any type of unfaithfulness, it will bring trouble and strife in the marriage. It will give the devil a foot hold to grab.
Always believe in each other. When the world is continually telling you that you are a failure, you should know that in the natural world your spouse is on your side when things seem impossible. As a spouse, you should always speak belief and positive destiny.
Learn to celebrate your differences as men and women. Don't be ashamed to show your true self. Be glorious as you accept your differences without rejection. There should be proactive communication in which all topics and circumstances are discussed. Just because you don't agree on everything does not give you the right to condemn your spouse. Love them with agape love at all times.
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