Know When To Be Quiet

There are times when it is better just to be quiet and allow your spouse to tumble a little bit. Sometimes when you speak too much, you get in the way of God. There are times when God will use you, but there are also times when God wants you to be quiet. The Serentity prayer says, "God grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

Ecclesiates 3:7 says, " A time to tear, and a time to sew, a time to keep silence, and a time to speak." Always take your prayers to God first, allow God to tell you how you should approach your spouse. Let God give you the words to come out of your mouth. Remember, 1Peter3:1 says, "Wives, likewise be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, may be won bu the conduct of their wives." Often times, husbands will figure it out on their own. Continuously preaching the word, may seem as nagging. This is especially true for the unsaved, but can also be true for the saved.

If God wills for your spouse to be taught something, put your trust in Him. The Holy Spirit will teach them on His time, not our time. Remember as much as we love our spouse we do not know their tomorrow, so stop trying to act like it.

James 1:19 says, " So then my beloved brethern let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath." Sometimes our spouse doesn't want to hear you say a word, but just needs to know that your hear them and that you can be a safe place for them to fall.