You Don't Like Your Spouse's Friends

There are times when we simply may not like our spouse's friends or a particular family member. This can be a very touchy topic for a lot of marriages for a couple of reasons.

1.) Your spouse is an adult and you are their husband or wife not their mother or father of a minor.

2.) The friend or family member has done nothing wrong giving reason to cause distance.

It is important that you do not give your spouse and ultimatum between their friends and/or family member and you. This will only drive an wedge between the two of you and be a possible source of stress. Here are a few suggestions on how to handle this type of situation.

1.) When alone with your spouse you can occassionally mention your reasons on why the friend and/or family member rubs you the wrong way. When doing this be careful not to judge or come off as nagging. Keep it in a manner of love.

2.) If you are put in situations in which you must deal with this person, make sure you remain yourself in your conduct, character, and commitment.

It is up to your spouse to determine who their friends are going to be. You can voice your concern, but don't make the decision for them and expect them to follow. Just remember that you most likely have friends and/or family members that they don't particularly like. It goes both ways, sometimes you just have to sacrafice for the sake of your spouse.

Sow and Reap In Your Marriage

We all know that you sow what your reap in life. It is God's plan to fulfill our lives. Even as we come together as one in our marriage we are first woman and man, therefore we have different interests, pet peeves, likes and dislikes. We were all created by God to be different and do not have any right to say that it always has to be our way or no way.

It is important for your spouse to know that you are willing to sacrafice on their behalf. There are times when you will have to do something that you simply can't stand for your spouse. This is a two way street, because they will also do the same for you. When they know that you are more than happy to sacrafice for them the more than happy they are to do it for you.

When you do this, your are sowing love into your marriage towards each other. Therefore you will reap love in return. God will see this as obedience to your spouse and continue to fulfil your life with blessing after blessing.

The opposite is also true, if you are not willing to sacrafice for your spouse do not be surprised when they are not willing to sacrafice for you. God will then see this as disobedience to your spouse and your blessings will cease.

Come Out of Your Comfort Zone

There are times when you have to come out of your comfort zone. God does not care about whether or not you are comfortable or not, what He cares about is whether or not you are obedient to his word. His word says that you are to become one with your spouse in several scriptures throughout the Bible.

That means that you are going to have to do things that make you completely uncomfortable for your spouse. You are going to go places that you would rather not, be with people that you don't particularly like, or what ever else for your spouse. However, your spouse is to do the same for you. Their should be a balance and one should not always have to do the compromising.

Each one of you should understand that you are important to the other person. Jesus made the ultimate sacrifice for us when he died on the cross for us. The least that we can do for our spouses is to make sacrifices for them. As long as whatever it is, is not contrary to the word of God, make the sacrifice.

If you are not willing to ever sacrifice, then it will give the devil a foot hold on crevices that can become valleys within your marriage. Your spouse should be able to rely on you for anything. Don't let a little incompatibility get in the way of your marriage. Pray for strength from God to get you through the situation or circumstance.