So many times we allow our spouse to dictate who we are and how much joy we have in our lives. It is up to you to make a commitment that you are complete in Christ Jesus. Philipians 4:13 says, "I can do all things through Christ you strengthens me." It does not say anything about your spouse.
It is not to say that you can not look to your spouse in times in difficulty or as a source of comfort. What it does mean is that you have Psalms 27:1 in your heart, mind, and spirit when it says, " The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life of whom shall I be afraid."
The Lord created joy for those that seek him first in all things. When you allow your spouse to dictate your attitude towards God you are failing to trust God. Psalms 37:4 says, "Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart." Focus on the plan that the Lord has for you. Understand that He will bless you, but it has to be on His time, not your time.
When times are tough find a scripture that touches you spiritually and post throughout locations that you can mediatate on it on a daily basis until it gets in your heart.
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Wednesday, July 1, 2009
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
The Gift Of The Red Rose
During the course of your marriage you will undoubtedly experience trials and tribulations. There may be times when you don't want to or don't know how to express love to your spouse.
When my husband and I got married, during our ceremony the pastor gave each of us a beautiful long stemed red rose to be our first gift exchanged between each other as husband and wife. The red rose has always been a symbol of love.
When those times occur, go get a single red rose or more if you like and place it in a spot that your spouse will notice. Even when times are hard, it will let your spouse know that you still love them and are willing to go through the hard times together. Even if your spouse doesn't respond favorably or even acknowledge your gift in the natural it will touch their spirit at some level.
Many times it is what we do more than what we say. It may take time for your spouse to respond, but we must stay the course and continue to express love to our spouse. Even when your marriage is going through a high point, leave the gift of the red rose. If you only do it when times are tough, your spouse may begin to suspect things are not as good as they think when they do receive a rose.
When my husband and I got married, during our ceremony the pastor gave each of us a beautiful long stemed red rose to be our first gift exchanged between each other as husband and wife. The red rose has always been a symbol of love.
When those times occur, go get a single red rose or more if you like and place it in a spot that your spouse will notice. Even when times are hard, it will let your spouse know that you still love them and are willing to go through the hard times together. Even if your spouse doesn't respond favorably or even acknowledge your gift in the natural it will touch their spirit at some level.
Many times it is what we do more than what we say. It may take time for your spouse to respond, but we must stay the course and continue to express love to our spouse. Even when your marriage is going through a high point, leave the gift of the red rose. If you only do it when times are tough, your spouse may begin to suspect things are not as good as they think when they do receive a rose.
Saturday, June 20, 2009
What Stage Is Your Marriage
Every marriage goes through various stages, the honey moon, the party over and the mature love stage. Every stage is pretty self explanatory, but let me explain each stage to you.
In the honeymoon stage it is what we all dream about, the endless sex, the candlelight dinners, forever romance my spouse can do no wrong. You love their dirty underwear stage. This is when people often say they are glowing.
Next comes the party's over stage. This is often a rocky time for a lot of marriages. Often times then is when reality hits and you may begin to second guess your decision to marry your spouse. It is when we turn our attention elsewhere and if you did not build your marriage on the rock of Jesus as in Matthew 7:24 then your marriage can fail.
The third stage is the best is yet to come and is the most rewarding stage, because it is when you are mature in your love for each other regardless of each others imperfections, personal interests and you know that no matter what happens nothing besides death will cause you to part from one another. It is the most rewarding of all of the stages.
Every marriage has to go through each of the three stages. The length of time that you spend in the honeymoon and party's over stages will vary depending on your marriage. However, you must go through them to enter the best is yet to come stage.
In the honeymoon stage it is what we all dream about, the endless sex, the candlelight dinners, forever romance my spouse can do no wrong. You love their dirty underwear stage. This is when people often say they are glowing.
Next comes the party's over stage. This is often a rocky time for a lot of marriages. Often times then is when reality hits and you may begin to second guess your decision to marry your spouse. It is when we turn our attention elsewhere and if you did not build your marriage on the rock of Jesus as in Matthew 7:24 then your marriage can fail.
The third stage is the best is yet to come and is the most rewarding stage, because it is when you are mature in your love for each other regardless of each others imperfections, personal interests and you know that no matter what happens nothing besides death will cause you to part from one another. It is the most rewarding of all of the stages.
Every marriage has to go through each of the three stages. The length of time that you spend in the honeymoon and party's over stages will vary depending on your marriage. However, you must go through them to enter the best is yet to come stage.
Thursday, June 18, 2009
How Do We Keep From Being Roommates
Often times in a marriage it seems as if the two of you seem more like roommates than spouses. Don't allow this to happen in your marriage. Keep the passion alive and thriving. Don't automatically assume that the other already knows how you feel about them. Express yourself to them physically, spiritually, and mentally.
Your spouse should know that after the trinity you are number one in your life. The only way you can do this is through conversation and maybe even to a greater extent through your body language. Be intimate with your spouse at spontaneous times. Do let it get boring or even routine.
Keep things fresh and new and just have fun together. People should be able to see you two together and know that you are involved in a relationship. If people are surprised, then you may want to increase the level of intimacy within your marriage.
Keep the fire alive in your marriage. If necessary, find or create things to do together as a couple. Of course, we all need some amount of alone time but also schedule ample amount of time for each other.
You had roommates in college, now you have a life partner in a spouse. There is a difference. You married a husband or wife, not your roommate.
Your spouse should know that after the trinity you are number one in your life. The only way you can do this is through conversation and maybe even to a greater extent through your body language. Be intimate with your spouse at spontaneous times. Do let it get boring or even routine.
Keep things fresh and new and just have fun together. People should be able to see you two together and know that you are involved in a relationship. If people are surprised, then you may want to increase the level of intimacy within your marriage.
Keep the fire alive in your marriage. If necessary, find or create things to do together as a couple. Of course, we all need some amount of alone time but also schedule ample amount of time for each other.
You had roommates in college, now you have a life partner in a spouse. There is a difference. You married a husband or wife, not your roommate.
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Dealing With Major Hurt
There are times when we have been deeply hurt whether it is was personal or within our marriage. It is important that we are open with our spouse and deal with the hurt and pain as it occurs and not allowing it to fester inside of us.
Hebrews 14:5 says, "For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weakness, but one one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet within sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace in the time of need." God knows that we are hurting and will always sympathize with our pain. However, he will give us the mercy and grace necessary to get through the hurt and pain.
Lean onto God and be open with your spouse. Turn to the Bible as a couple and find every possible scripture dealing with your particular issue. Look to your spouse for support in the natural. Keep everything out in the open, when you hide secrets they take over your heart. As a spouse of the one experiencing the hurt, be a soft place for the hurting spouse to fall. There should be nothing that your hurting spouse can't confide in you. Take them to scripture and prayer to help them heal.
Hebrews 14:5 says, "For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weakness, but one one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet within sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace in the time of need." God knows that we are hurting and will always sympathize with our pain. However, he will give us the mercy and grace necessary to get through the hurt and pain.
Lean onto God and be open with your spouse. Turn to the Bible as a couple and find every possible scripture dealing with your particular issue. Look to your spouse for support in the natural. Keep everything out in the open, when you hide secrets they take over your heart. As a spouse of the one experiencing the hurt, be a soft place for the hurting spouse to fall. There should be nothing that your hurting spouse can't confide in you. Take them to scripture and prayer to help them heal.
Friday, June 12, 2009
Sow and Reap In Your Marriage
We all know that you sow what your reap in life. It is God's plan to fulfill our lives. Even as we come together as one in our marriage we are first woman and man, therefore we have different interests, pet peeves, likes and dislikes. We were all created by God to be different and do not have any right to say that it always has to be our way or no way.
It is important for your spouse to know that you are willing to sacrafice on their behalf. There are times when you will have to do something that you simply can't stand for your spouse. This is a two way street, because they will also do the same for you. When they know that you are more than happy to sacrafice for them the more than happy they are to do it for you.
When you do this, your are sowing love into your marriage towards each other. Therefore you will reap love in return. God will see this as obedience to your spouse and continue to fulfil your life with blessing after blessing.
The opposite is also true, if you are not willing to sacrafice for your spouse do not be surprised when they are not willing to sacrafice for you. God will then see this as disobedience to your spouse and your blessings will cease.
It is important for your spouse to know that you are willing to sacrafice on their behalf. There are times when you will have to do something that you simply can't stand for your spouse. This is a two way street, because they will also do the same for you. When they know that you are more than happy to sacrafice for them the more than happy they are to do it for you.
When you do this, your are sowing love into your marriage towards each other. Therefore you will reap love in return. God will see this as obedience to your spouse and continue to fulfil your life with blessing after blessing.
The opposite is also true, if you are not willing to sacrafice for your spouse do not be surprised when they are not willing to sacrafice for you. God will then see this as disobedience to your spouse and your blessings will cease.
Monday, June 8, 2009
Fellowship With Other Married Couples
It is important to fellowship with other married couples. It is not to say that once you become married that you can't socialize with singles. However, you do have to be careful in the sense that often times singles are attempting to find a mate and often times are not faithful to one person.
They may try to get you to do the same and cheat on your spouse. Also many single friends that have been burned or can not find a potential spouse will often times try to interfere with your marriage. They will make you see issues that may not really exist.
However, there are many single friends that will continue to uplift and will show full support for your marriage and know their limits in terms of your relationship with them.
Fellowship with other married couples that are saved and baptized with the Holy Spirit and they can continue to inspire you to grow in your relationship with the trinity.
They may try to get you to do the same and cheat on your spouse. Also many single friends that have been burned or can not find a potential spouse will often times try to interfere with your marriage. They will make you see issues that may not really exist.
However, there are many single friends that will continue to uplift and will show full support for your marriage and know their limits in terms of your relationship with them.
Fellowship with other married couples that are saved and baptized with the Holy Spirit and they can continue to inspire you to grow in your relationship with the trinity.
My Spouse Is Not Saved
More often than not one spouse or the other becomes saved and baptized with the Holy Spirit at the same time. Everyone gives their salvation at different times as God continues to move in each one of us separately.
In 1 Peter 3:1 says, "Wives, be in subjection to your own husband, that, if any obey not the word, they may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives." This is especially true when wives are saved and baptized with the Holy Spirit prior to their husbands. It is not for the wives to continually preach to her husband. What wives see as trying to teach their husbands to bring them closer to the trinity, husbands will often see as nagging and will resist as a result.
It is better for wives to continue to be a credible witness as she gives glory to God. Husbands will respond when they see how the trinity lives within his wife. Be a example of how to live.
In Ephesians 5:24 it says, "So let the wives be to their own husbands in everything." So husbands, if you are saved and baptized with the Holy Spirit and your wife is not, continue to lead her as a man of God. Continue to be a credible witness and your life will give life to the seed that you plant.
Regardless of how your spouse acts, always continue to allow Jesus to live through you in your character, conduct, and commitment.
In 1 Peter 3:1 says, "Wives, be in subjection to your own husband, that, if any obey not the word, they may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives." This is especially true when wives are saved and baptized with the Holy Spirit prior to their husbands. It is not for the wives to continually preach to her husband. What wives see as trying to teach their husbands to bring them closer to the trinity, husbands will often see as nagging and will resist as a result.
It is better for wives to continue to be a credible witness as she gives glory to God. Husbands will respond when they see how the trinity lives within his wife. Be a example of how to live.
In Ephesians 5:24 it says, "So let the wives be to their own husbands in everything." So husbands, if you are saved and baptized with the Holy Spirit and your wife is not, continue to lead her as a man of God. Continue to be a credible witness and your life will give life to the seed that you plant.
Regardless of how your spouse acts, always continue to allow Jesus to live through you in your character, conduct, and commitment.
Friday, May 22, 2009
Be Your Spouses Cheerleader
I can't tell you how much it saddens me when I see spouses that don't show support for each other. The world makes it a point to down play your dreams, tell you that you are not good enough, that you were a mistake, that someone else can do it better. Be your a enormous cheerleader for your spouse. They should know that even though Philippians 4:11 says, "I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me." you believe in them as well.
When your spouse has doubt, take it to prayer and then to your spouse. Sometimes, they need a soft place to fall when times get tough. Get quiet and pray together as husband and wife. Your spouse should know that as long as they follow Jesus, you will follow them in their dreams. When your spouse comes to you always be there to uplift and encourage them to succeed. Don't place a value on it. Just because it might not make much sense financially, it can be God's plan as they do the work of the Lord. It is not up to you to put a value on it. God gave them that dream and you have absolutely no right to try to take that dream from them.
There will be times when you may not understand, or even like whatever it is that your spouse is dreaming. Newsflash! God gave it to your spouse not to you. God has given each of us hopes and dreams that are unique to us. Matthew 7:1, says "Judge not, that you will be not judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you." Therefore you do not have any right to be judgemental. Only God can judge. If it is not to be, then let God reveal and remove it. Then God can restore.
God purposed each one of us before the foundation of the earth. John 17:24, "You loved me before the foundation of the world." God intended for you as each other's spouse to have his voice within your marriage. Give back God his word in your marriage. God is not the author of failure. Always be your spouse's loudest, biggest, and boldest cheerleader!
When your spouse has doubt, take it to prayer and then to your spouse. Sometimes, they need a soft place to fall when times get tough. Get quiet and pray together as husband and wife. Your spouse should know that as long as they follow Jesus, you will follow them in their dreams. When your spouse comes to you always be there to uplift and encourage them to succeed. Don't place a value on it. Just because it might not make much sense financially, it can be God's plan as they do the work of the Lord. It is not up to you to put a value on it. God gave them that dream and you have absolutely no right to try to take that dream from them.
There will be times when you may not understand, or even like whatever it is that your spouse is dreaming. Newsflash! God gave it to your spouse not to you. God has given each of us hopes and dreams that are unique to us. Matthew 7:1, says "Judge not, that you will be not judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you." Therefore you do not have any right to be judgemental. Only God can judge. If it is not to be, then let God reveal and remove it. Then God can restore.
God purposed each one of us before the foundation of the earth. John 17:24, "You loved me before the foundation of the world." God intended for you as each other's spouse to have his voice within your marriage. Give back God his word in your marriage. God is not the author of failure. Always be your spouse's loudest, biggest, and boldest cheerleader!
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Understand Each Others Strengths and Weaknesses
When God created marriages, he made it so that opposites attract,where one is weaker the other is stronger and vice versa. We can only use what we have, we can not use what we do not have whether it is in life, especially within your marriage.
In 2 Corinthians 8:12-14 says, " For if there is first a willing mind, it is accepted according to what one has, and not according to what he does not have. For I do not mean that others should be eased and your burdened, but by an equality that now at this time your abundance may supply their lack, and that their abundance also may supply your lack-that there may be equality." Each spouse needs to allow the other to use what they have. When you try to use something that you do not have, then you will open the door to difficulty and conflict.
As long as each of you continue to walk in what you have to the utmost as you seek God, then God will do the rest. Remember there is nothing that is impossible for God. Philippians 4:13 says, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." and if you keep reading down to Philippians 4:19, it reads "And my God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus."
When you come to God in weakness, God can show his power in your situation and/or circumstance. When you develop your relationship with the trinity and give God the glory, God will restore you more quickly. When you turn from the trinity, God can not trust you with his power and He will prove to be sovereign.
Build your relationship not only with God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, but also with your spouse. Don't spin your wheels trying to do something when you don't have it. The key is to use what you do have and for your spouse to use what they have to the fullest and allow God to do the rest.
In 2 Corinthians 8:12-14 says, " For if there is first a willing mind, it is accepted according to what one has, and not according to what he does not have. For I do not mean that others should be eased and your burdened, but by an equality that now at this time your abundance may supply their lack, and that their abundance also may supply your lack-that there may be equality." Each spouse needs to allow the other to use what they have. When you try to use something that you do not have, then you will open the door to difficulty and conflict.
As long as each of you continue to walk in what you have to the utmost as you seek God, then God will do the rest. Remember there is nothing that is impossible for God. Philippians 4:13 says, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." and if you keep reading down to Philippians 4:19, it reads "And my God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus."
When you come to God in weakness, God can show his power in your situation and/or circumstance. When you develop your relationship with the trinity and give God the glory, God will restore you more quickly. When you turn from the trinity, God can not trust you with his power and He will prove to be sovereign.
Build your relationship not only with God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, but also with your spouse. Don't spin your wheels trying to do something when you don't have it. The key is to use what you do have and for your spouse to use what they have to the fullest and allow God to do the rest.
Monday, May 4, 2009
Know When To Be Quiet
There are times when it is better just to be quiet and allow your spouse to tumble a little bit. Sometimes when you speak too much, you get in the way of God. There are times when God will use you, but there are also times when God wants you to be quiet. The Serentity prayer says, "God grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
Ecclesiates 3:7 says, " A time to tear, and a time to sew, a time to keep silence, and a time to speak." Always take your prayers to God first, allow God to tell you how you should approach your spouse. Let God give you the words to come out of your mouth. Remember, 1Peter3:1 says, "Wives, likewise be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, may be won bu the conduct of their wives." Often times, husbands will figure it out on their own. Continuously preaching the word, may seem as nagging. This is especially true for the unsaved, but can also be true for the saved.
If God wills for your spouse to be taught something, put your trust in Him. The Holy Spirit will teach them on His time, not our time. Remember as much as we love our spouse we do not know their tomorrow, so stop trying to act like it.
James 1:19 says, " So then my beloved brethern let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath." Sometimes our spouse doesn't want to hear you say a word, but just needs to know that your hear them and that you can be a safe place for them to fall.
Ecclesiates 3:7 says, " A time to tear, and a time to sew, a time to keep silence, and a time to speak." Always take your prayers to God first, allow God to tell you how you should approach your spouse. Let God give you the words to come out of your mouth. Remember, 1Peter3:1 says, "Wives, likewise be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, may be won bu the conduct of their wives." Often times, husbands will figure it out on their own. Continuously preaching the word, may seem as nagging. This is especially true for the unsaved, but can also be true for the saved.
If God wills for your spouse to be taught something, put your trust in Him. The Holy Spirit will teach them on His time, not our time. Remember as much as we love our spouse we do not know their tomorrow, so stop trying to act like it.
James 1:19 says, " So then my beloved brethern let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath." Sometimes our spouse doesn't want to hear you say a word, but just needs to know that your hear them and that you can be a safe place for them to fall.
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
Love Language
When God created us, he created each of us to be different from one another. We all have our own ways, thoughts, mind sets, and emotions. Therefore, there are different ways in which we understand and relate to other people. Even in the case of what the world calls identical twins there are differences on some level.
There are three basic ways that we as people comprehend trust, respect, and yes...even love. As you know there are two forms of communication. They are verbal and non verbal. Whether or not you realize it, you utilize both in your every day life. There are three different ways in which others intrpret what we are trying to say. They are 1.)Auditory-pretty much what comes out of our mouth. Whenever we say something they pick up on our tone. Is it loving and soft or is it sarcastic, hard, or hesitiate? 2.) Visual-is simply what we do that they can see. Do we do things just to keep them quiet and from bickering or do we do them out of love and compassion. 3.) Kinsetic- How do we show affection towards them? Do we greet them with a hug and kiss or do we push them away when they even look like they want to get close?
Find out what your spouse's love language. If they are auditory they will need to hear you say "I love you". The spouse that is visual may not necessarily need to hear it, but see it through maybe receiving constant gifts for no reason. The kinsetic spouse may need to have that hug and kiss every morning. Just because your love language may be different, be willing to take the stretch and submit to their love language.
Be communicative about your love language. Let your spouse know what you need from them to show you that they have feelings of love towards you. Do not expect them to just know. The Holy Spirit is the only mind reader, don't expect your spouse to be a mind reader.
True love goes both ways between spouses. Before you can receive love, you must first be willing to give love.The more you speak their love language, the more they will speak your love language.
There are three basic ways that we as people comprehend trust, respect, and yes...even love. As you know there are two forms of communication. They are verbal and non verbal. Whether or not you realize it, you utilize both in your every day life. There are three different ways in which others intrpret what we are trying to say. They are 1.)Auditory-pretty much what comes out of our mouth. Whenever we say something they pick up on our tone. Is it loving and soft or is it sarcastic, hard, or hesitiate? 2.) Visual-is simply what we do that they can see. Do we do things just to keep them quiet and from bickering or do we do them out of love and compassion. 3.) Kinsetic- How do we show affection towards them? Do we greet them with a hug and kiss or do we push them away when they even look like they want to get close?
Find out what your spouse's love language. If they are auditory they will need to hear you say "I love you". The spouse that is visual may not necessarily need to hear it, but see it through maybe receiving constant gifts for no reason. The kinsetic spouse may need to have that hug and kiss every morning. Just because your love language may be different, be willing to take the stretch and submit to their love language.
Be communicative about your love language. Let your spouse know what you need from them to show you that they have feelings of love towards you. Do not expect them to just know. The Holy Spirit is the only mind reader, don't expect your spouse to be a mind reader.
True love goes both ways between spouses. Before you can receive love, you must first be willing to give love.The more you speak their love language, the more they will speak your love language.
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Love Your Spouse According to God
How many times has your spouse done something that deeply offended, hurt, or disgusted you to the pit of your soul. Have you ever felt dead when you look at them or would rather kiss a venemous snake than them? God is all power and can and will deliver you from all of the above if you delight yourself in the Lord at all times.
In John 15:14, "These things I command you, that you love one another." God just commanded you to love others. God wants you to love unconditionally the way that He loves you. Regardless of what the other has done, said, or even thought they are still a child of God. They were created just as you were created.
Therefore, you must love according to the word of God not according to their ways. In Matthew 5:44, "But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who spifefully use you and persecute you." This means that even when things seem impossible and hatefullness, deceit, and despair, are within the situation or circumstance you must love them.
In 1Corinthians 13:4, "Love suffers long and is kind: love does not envy, love does not parade itself, is not puffed up, does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil, does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, endures all things." This scripture is one that is commonly quoted, but it is what I consider to be one of the strongest scriptures in the Bible. It expresses the love of God. It is the type of love that should be shared with your spouse.
Love is something that knows no limit, there is absolutely nothing that it can not conquer. God loves each and every one of us for who He created us to be. Love your spouse according to the word of God and where there is death, the Holy Spirit can restore life. God is not concerned with individual ways, so love according to God and not their ways.
Do not misunderstand trust for love. Just because you love someone does not mean that you trust them. If you know someone steals, continue to love them but still watch your belongings. Trust in God at all times. The Bible teaches us that as husband and wife, you are to cleave to one another and become one. There will be problems, trials, and tribulations within your marriage. However, solve them according to the word of God and do not lean to your own understanding. You must put on the full armor of God to fight your battles, not the changing nature of man.
In John 15:14, "These things I command you, that you love one another." God just commanded you to love others. God wants you to love unconditionally the way that He loves you. Regardless of what the other has done, said, or even thought they are still a child of God. They were created just as you were created.
Therefore, you must love according to the word of God not according to their ways. In Matthew 5:44, "But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who spifefully use you and persecute you." This means that even when things seem impossible and hatefullness, deceit, and despair, are within the situation or circumstance you must love them.
In 1Corinthians 13:4, "Love suffers long and is kind: love does not envy, love does not parade itself, is not puffed up, does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil, does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, endures all things." This scripture is one that is commonly quoted, but it is what I consider to be one of the strongest scriptures in the Bible. It expresses the love of God. It is the type of love that should be shared with your spouse.
Love is something that knows no limit, there is absolutely nothing that it can not conquer. God loves each and every one of us for who He created us to be. Love your spouse according to the word of God and where there is death, the Holy Spirit can restore life. God is not concerned with individual ways, so love according to God and not their ways.
Do not misunderstand trust for love. Just because you love someone does not mean that you trust them. If you know someone steals, continue to love them but still watch your belongings. Trust in God at all times. The Bible teaches us that as husband and wife, you are to cleave to one another and become one. There will be problems, trials, and tribulations within your marriage. However, solve them according to the word of God and do not lean to your own understanding. You must put on the full armor of God to fight your battles, not the changing nature of man.
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
The Power Of Prayer With Your Spouse
Daily prayer with your spouse can do wonders. It can keep a strong marriage that much stronger and its absense can cause havoc and destruction. Acts 6:4, "but we will give ourselves continually to prayer and to the ministry of the word." When we pray to the trinity it is giving God his word back to him.
It is during prayer that we can continue to give God the honor, power and glory. It is at this time that when you pray with your spouse, you are bringing God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit into your marriage. It has a direct effect of uniting the two of your into oneness. When this happens you are letting God know that your spirits are in direct connection with the Holy Spirit.
In Matthew 19:6, " Wherefore, what God hath joined together, let man not put asunder." When God created marriage, He intended for you to pray together in order to bring you into agreement under one accord. Make prayer a part of your morning ritual before you leave for the day. Start of each morning by coming together in love and presenting yourself before the Father.
Don't allow anything or anyone else disrupt this ritual. If you make it habitual then you will find that when trials and tribulations arise, God can answer them for you through your prayer. If you are not in the practice of praying together or one of you is not a Christian or believes in prayer, then continue to pray on your own. Let the other know why you pray and once your prayers are answered your spouse will see the benefit in you and will be more apt to begin prayer with you.
It is during prayer that we can continue to give God the honor, power and glory. It is at this time that when you pray with your spouse, you are bringing God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit into your marriage. It has a direct effect of uniting the two of your into oneness. When this happens you are letting God know that your spirits are in direct connection with the Holy Spirit.
In Matthew 19:6, " Wherefore, what God hath joined together, let man not put asunder." When God created marriage, He intended for you to pray together in order to bring you into agreement under one accord. Make prayer a part of your morning ritual before you leave for the day. Start of each morning by coming together in love and presenting yourself before the Father.
Don't allow anything or anyone else disrupt this ritual. If you make it habitual then you will find that when trials and tribulations arise, God can answer them for you through your prayer. If you are not in the practice of praying together or one of you is not a Christian or believes in prayer, then continue to pray on your own. Let the other know why you pray and once your prayers are answered your spouse will see the benefit in you and will be more apt to begin prayer with you.
Monday, January 19, 2009
Choose Your Mate Wisely
Life is full of decisions, whether it is something simple or complex. We make decisions from the time we get up to the time that we go to bed. However, there are some major life decisions that we must take considerable time otherwise they can mean devastation if we are not careful.
It is critical to understand that life decisions are long lasting and life changing. The number one decision that you will make in life is that of you will marry. The word of God, teaches that God hates divorce. In Genesis 2:18, says that"It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." Then in Matthew 19:6, the Bible says, "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
We are therefore not to always seek God first and foremost in our lives. When you have to put something together or assemble something, you are provided with a instruction manual. When you choose to do it your way, something is almost guaranteed to be incorrect. Use the Bible as your instruction manual for your marriage. God created the institution of marriage, so he should be your source of what to do at all times.
When you follow the system of the world in your marriage, you are taking a gamble. Why would you want to gamble with someone else's life? Why would you want to put your own relationship with God at risk?
Choose someone that you are equally yolked. Choose your spouse based on God and how you see Jesus in them.
It is critical to understand that life decisions are long lasting and life changing. The number one decision that you will make in life is that of you will marry. The word of God, teaches that God hates divorce. In Genesis 2:18, says that"It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." Then in Matthew 19:6, the Bible says, "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
We are therefore not to always seek God first and foremost in our lives. When you have to put something together or assemble something, you are provided with a instruction manual. When you choose to do it your way, something is almost guaranteed to be incorrect. Use the Bible as your instruction manual for your marriage. God created the institution of marriage, so he should be your source of what to do at all times.
When you follow the system of the world in your marriage, you are taking a gamble. Why would you want to gamble with someone else's life? Why would you want to put your own relationship with God at risk?
Choose someone that you are equally yolked. Choose your spouse based on God and how you see Jesus in them.
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