Not everyone is blessed with being in the same house with our spouse every day or most days. Unfortunately there are many times when each spouse is forced to be in different time zones, whether it is due to military, careers, children or what ever else.
This does not mean that your marriage has to suffer. The two of you can still maintain a strong and healthy marriage even if it does require some extra work. In the beginning, we were forced to be on opposite coasts. Here is what we did to make sure we were still kept close. If you are put in this situation follow some of these guidelines to at least help.
1. Continue to make time for each other. Whether it is on the phone, or our favorite the webcam. Let your spouse know that you are still willing to sacrafice time on their behalf.
2. Continue to share in all major decisions. Do not cut out each other when making decisions in regards to children, finances, careers etc.
3. Stay spiritually, emotionally, and mentally connected with each other.
4. Make it a point to visit each other taking turns of who does the traveling.
This can be difficult, but you have to trust God to give you the strength to get through this period in your marriage.
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Saturday, July 11, 2009
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
Be A Proverbs 31 Wife
It always gets me when people say that they do not have a instruction manual to life. That is the one of the biggest lies ever told - it's the Bible. Wives be a Proverbs 31 women for your husband. Proverbs 31:10-12 says, "Who can find a virtuous wife? for her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts her. So he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life."
Wives this means a couple of things. First it means that your husbands are to find you. Second it means that your worth is far above rubies to her husband. Third it means that her husband trust her so that he will suffer not lack. Fourth it means that you always edify your husband each and every day regardless of what the day.
The remaining verses discus how a wife is to care for the matters of the household. Whenever you want to know what to do as a wife study Proverbs 31 and allow the Holy Spirit to teach you to be the wife that God intended for you to be towards your husband.
Always go to the word of God for direction. Other wives may be good wives, but they are good wives to their husbands. What is good for your husband is different and the Holy Spirit will speak to you for your marriage.
Wives this means a couple of things. First it means that your husbands are to find you. Second it means that your worth is far above rubies to her husband. Third it means that her husband trust her so that he will suffer not lack. Fourth it means that you always edify your husband each and every day regardless of what the day.
The remaining verses discus how a wife is to care for the matters of the household. Whenever you want to know what to do as a wife study Proverbs 31 and allow the Holy Spirit to teach you to be the wife that God intended for you to be towards your husband.
Always go to the word of God for direction. Other wives may be good wives, but they are good wives to their husbands. What is good for your husband is different and the Holy Spirit will speak to you for your marriage.
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Set Goals Together
We all know the importance of setting goals both long and short term for our lives. We do it for ourselves, our children, careers, and everything else. It is also important to set goals for your marriage.
Sit down with each other and create a plan to reach both your long and short term goals as a couple, and family. It has often been said that the plan didn't fail, it was that you failed to plan. Before the Holy Spirit can guide and direct your plan, you must first provide a plan.
You can have all of the faith in the world, but we know that without works, faith is dead. When you make goals together it binds your marriage together into oneness. Habakkuk 2:2 states, "Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it." Take time to write it down and make a systematic plan to reach your goals.
It will cause you to cleave to one another. Set different types of goals such as spiritual, financial, administrative, family, educational goals together as one.
Sit down with each other and create a plan to reach both your long and short term goals as a couple, and family. It has often been said that the plan didn't fail, it was that you failed to plan. Before the Holy Spirit can guide and direct your plan, you must first provide a plan.
You can have all of the faith in the world, but we know that without works, faith is dead. When you make goals together it binds your marriage together into oneness. Habakkuk 2:2 states, "Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it." Take time to write it down and make a systematic plan to reach your goals.
It will cause you to cleave to one another. Set different types of goals such as spiritual, financial, administrative, family, educational goals together as one.
Saturday, June 20, 2009
What Stage Is Your Marriage
Every marriage goes through various stages, the honey moon, the party over and the mature love stage. Every stage is pretty self explanatory, but let me explain each stage to you.
In the honeymoon stage it is what we all dream about, the endless sex, the candlelight dinners, forever romance my spouse can do no wrong. You love their dirty underwear stage. This is when people often say they are glowing.
Next comes the party's over stage. This is often a rocky time for a lot of marriages. Often times then is when reality hits and you may begin to second guess your decision to marry your spouse. It is when we turn our attention elsewhere and if you did not build your marriage on the rock of Jesus as in Matthew 7:24 then your marriage can fail.
The third stage is the best is yet to come and is the most rewarding stage, because it is when you are mature in your love for each other regardless of each others imperfections, personal interests and you know that no matter what happens nothing besides death will cause you to part from one another. It is the most rewarding of all of the stages.
Every marriage has to go through each of the three stages. The length of time that you spend in the honeymoon and party's over stages will vary depending on your marriage. However, you must go through them to enter the best is yet to come stage.
In the honeymoon stage it is what we all dream about, the endless sex, the candlelight dinners, forever romance my spouse can do no wrong. You love their dirty underwear stage. This is when people often say they are glowing.
Next comes the party's over stage. This is often a rocky time for a lot of marriages. Often times then is when reality hits and you may begin to second guess your decision to marry your spouse. It is when we turn our attention elsewhere and if you did not build your marriage on the rock of Jesus as in Matthew 7:24 then your marriage can fail.
The third stage is the best is yet to come and is the most rewarding stage, because it is when you are mature in your love for each other regardless of each others imperfections, personal interests and you know that no matter what happens nothing besides death will cause you to part from one another. It is the most rewarding of all of the stages.
Every marriage has to go through each of the three stages. The length of time that you spend in the honeymoon and party's over stages will vary depending on your marriage. However, you must go through them to enter the best is yet to come stage.
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Questions Before "I do"
It makes sense although many do not take the time necessary to do some basic communication before the big "I do" If you take this time, then you can avoid any unwelcome surprises, conflicts, or incompatibilities.
Here are some basic questions that you should have a full understanding of your spouse prior to marriage. Doing so will greatly improve your liklihood of having a marriage of heaven on earth or if not it can be hell on earth. Not doing so does not mean that you can't have heaven on earth, but you will have much more work.
1.)What is your relationship with your family?
2.)How do you handle money?
3.)How many children do you want or already have?
4.)What are your spiritual viewpoints?
5.)How do you handle stress?
6.)What are your other interests, habits, etc?
7.)Where do want to live?
8.)Do you have any major health issues?
9.)What is your work ethic?
10.)What is your overall lifestyle?
These should only be a begining to your conversations. Find out all you can before you say "I do" so if it isn't right you can get out before you are married.
Here are some basic questions that you should have a full understanding of your spouse prior to marriage. Doing so will greatly improve your liklihood of having a marriage of heaven on earth or if not it can be hell on earth. Not doing so does not mean that you can't have heaven on earth, but you will have much more work.
1.)What is your relationship with your family?
2.)How do you handle money?
3.)How many children do you want or already have?
4.)What are your spiritual viewpoints?
5.)How do you handle stress?
6.)What are your other interests, habits, etc?
7.)Where do want to live?
8.)Do you have any major health issues?
9.)What is your work ethic?
10.)What is your overall lifestyle?
These should only be a begining to your conversations. Find out all you can before you say "I do" so if it isn't right you can get out before you are married.
Thursday, June 4, 2009
The Ten Commandments of Marriage
When my husband and I first decided to get married we can up with 10 Commandments for our marriage. I would encourage the two of you to do the same. Here are our 10 that we came up with as it pertains to us. They are all based from the Bible.
1. Seek God First. Matthew 6:33 and Mark 12
2. Daily prayer together as a couple Acts 6:4, Ephesians 6:18 Jude 1:20
3. Honor and respect each other at all times.
4. Open and non judgemental communication Eph 4:29 Phm 1:6
5. Daily verbal communication.
6. Continue dating throughout our marriage on a regular basis.
7. Continuous education in marriage.
8. Divorce is not a option Matthew 5:31-32 Mark 10:7-9
9. Never under any circumstances go to bed angry.
10. Continue to uplift and encourage each other according to the trinity.
It is not to say that your it has to remain at 10 commandments. They may change or as a couple you may add more or the order of priority may change. Always go to the Bible as it relates to your marriage.
1. Seek God First. Matthew 6:33 and Mark 12
2. Daily prayer together as a couple Acts 6:4, Ephesians 6:18 Jude 1:20
3. Honor and respect each other at all times.
4. Open and non judgemental communication Eph 4:29 Phm 1:6
5. Daily verbal communication.
6. Continue dating throughout our marriage on a regular basis.
7. Continuous education in marriage.
8. Divorce is not a option Matthew 5:31-32 Mark 10:7-9
9. Never under any circumstances go to bed angry.
10. Continue to uplift and encourage each other according to the trinity.
It is not to say that your it has to remain at 10 commandments. They may change or as a couple you may add more or the order of priority may change. Always go to the Bible as it relates to your marriage.
Monday, June 1, 2009
Marriage Myths
There are so many myths that people believe about marriage that need to be broken. Never forget, God is the creator of marriage and should be the source of where you go for your marriage.
Myth 1.) The grass must be greener on the other side.
Stop looking at other marriages and making the determination that they have a happier marriage. You only see what they portray to the outside world. You have absolutely no idea of what they have going on within the walls of their home.
Myth 2.) Things will just fall into place.
Marriage is work. We must continually work at it, for we know faith without works is dead. Things just don't fall into place, you must set the foundation and continually work for your marriage.
Myth 3.) Marriage will make you whole.
Genesis 1:26 says, "Let us make man in our image according to our likeness, let him dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth." You were made whole when God created you.
These are just a few of the common myths that the world has convinced us of about marriage. It is why you must always rely on the unchanging and uncompromising word of God for your marriage.
Myth 1.) The grass must be greener on the other side.
Stop looking at other marriages and making the determination that they have a happier marriage. You only see what they portray to the outside world. You have absolutely no idea of what they have going on within the walls of their home.
Myth 2.) Things will just fall into place.
Marriage is work. We must continually work at it, for we know faith without works is dead. Things just don't fall into place, you must set the foundation and continually work for your marriage.
Myth 3.) Marriage will make you whole.
Genesis 1:26 says, "Let us make man in our image according to our likeness, let him dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth." You were made whole when God created you.
These are just a few of the common myths that the world has convinced us of about marriage. It is why you must always rely on the unchanging and uncompromising word of God for your marriage.
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Forgive And Forget
One of the most challenging aspects of life that we are faced with each and every day is the process of forgiving and forgeting. According to the way of the world, often times we say that we will forgive. However, when it comes to the forgeting part,hesitations present themselves. We all know the saying, " I will forgive, but never forget."
When it comes to the word of God, we must forgive and forget. John 20:23 says, "If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them, if you retain the sins of any, they are retained." In Colassians 2:13 it reads, "And you being dead in your trespases and the uncircumcision of your flesh, He has made alive together with Him. having forgiven you all trespases."
If you pay close attention to the previous two scriptures you will see that you must forgive and forget. We know that Jesus died for our sins and all was forgiven. We also know that through several scriptures that we are to be a credible witness to Jesus and that Jesus moves inside of us. Therefore, just as Jesus forgave us, then we are to forgive others. This is absolutely critical between husband and wife.
When we do not forget, we are essentially having a direct correlation of putting Jesus back up on the cross. We are basically saying that the sin was not forgiven and that he did not die for our sins. So you have to ask yourself, " Is it really worth putting Jesus back on the cross?"
In order to forgive and forget, you must take each and every situation to the word of God. It is something that you should do as a couple. If you allow the word to cleanse you of your trespases, then you will be under the authority of God. Phillipians 4:8, " Finally brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praise worthy-meditate on these things." If you do this, then you will not have any time left to think about anything negative or contrary to the word of God.
There will be trials and tribulations in your marriage, but if you stay focused on the word of God, you can find strength in your weakness and become stronger in your relationship with God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit.
When it comes to the word of God, we must forgive and forget. John 20:23 says, "If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them, if you retain the sins of any, they are retained." In Colassians 2:13 it reads, "And you being dead in your trespases and the uncircumcision of your flesh, He has made alive together with Him. having forgiven you all trespases."
If you pay close attention to the previous two scriptures you will see that you must forgive and forget. We know that Jesus died for our sins and all was forgiven. We also know that through several scriptures that we are to be a credible witness to Jesus and that Jesus moves inside of us. Therefore, just as Jesus forgave us, then we are to forgive others. This is absolutely critical between husband and wife.
When we do not forget, we are essentially having a direct correlation of putting Jesus back up on the cross. We are basically saying that the sin was not forgiven and that he did not die for our sins. So you have to ask yourself, " Is it really worth putting Jesus back on the cross?"
In order to forgive and forget, you must take each and every situation to the word of God. It is something that you should do as a couple. If you allow the word to cleanse you of your trespases, then you will be under the authority of God. Phillipians 4:8, " Finally brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praise worthy-meditate on these things." If you do this, then you will not have any time left to think about anything negative or contrary to the word of God.
There will be trials and tribulations in your marriage, but if you stay focused on the word of God, you can find strength in your weakness and become stronger in your relationship with God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit.
Saturday, May 9, 2009
Train Up A Child
The word parent is more than a noun, it needs to be a active verb that you do for your child(ren). Remember that God created each and every one of us, He then birthed them through a mother, but they come from Him.
Through several scriptures in the Bible it talks about not having sex, which is the sin of fornication, prior to marriage. Therefore, I will keep my focus on the role of parents as the married couple. However, this article is really for all parents whether they have children or have a close relationship with children. Just because you didn't give birth to them does not by any means that you can not parent.
Proverbs 22:6, " Train up a child in the way he should go. When he is old he will not depart from it." This means that you are to train your child to praise, worship, honor, and give God the glory. Joshua, put it very simple and eloquently, when he said in Joshua 24:13, "But as for me and my house we will serve the Lord." Do not make any exception on behalf of your children.
Make your children participate in church, daily prayers, home bible study, and self bible study. Let them know who they are according to God and not the world. Don't let them just wander in the wilderness. However, if they fall unless it will kill them or cause serious detriment, as hard as it is, you have to let them slip and fall. Then if you did the above, they will develop their own relationship with God. When they get back up they will give God the glory and learn from whatever caused them to fall.
This does not mean that you keep them out of the world. Show them the world, but let them understand they are not of the world. 1John2:15, "Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in Him. For all that is in the world-the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life-is not of the Father but is of the world."
When you come together as parents, it will bring you closer together as husband and wife. Understand your roles as father and mother. You must come together in the raising of the child. In the area of children, proactive communication is critical. When children do something you have to react immediately. The luxuary of waiting for a specific meeting or even a phone call to your spouse is often not permitted. Therefore you must have already come together to discuss what you will each do as a team. If you and your spouse disagree or react differently your children will put you two against each other and play the lessor of two evils against you.
Children learn by example not by what comes out of your mouth. If they see you two acting unGodly in your marriage, then they will do the same when they get married. They will learn what marriage is supposed to be according to what they see you do in your marriage. Therefore, it is absolutely critical that you show them a God-driven marriage.
Through several scriptures in the Bible it talks about not having sex, which is the sin of fornication, prior to marriage. Therefore, I will keep my focus on the role of parents as the married couple. However, this article is really for all parents whether they have children or have a close relationship with children. Just because you didn't give birth to them does not by any means that you can not parent.
Proverbs 22:6, " Train up a child in the way he should go. When he is old he will not depart from it." This means that you are to train your child to praise, worship, honor, and give God the glory. Joshua, put it very simple and eloquently, when he said in Joshua 24:13, "But as for me and my house we will serve the Lord." Do not make any exception on behalf of your children.
Make your children participate in church, daily prayers, home bible study, and self bible study. Let them know who they are according to God and not the world. Don't let them just wander in the wilderness. However, if they fall unless it will kill them or cause serious detriment, as hard as it is, you have to let them slip and fall. Then if you did the above, they will develop their own relationship with God. When they get back up they will give God the glory and learn from whatever caused them to fall.
This does not mean that you keep them out of the world. Show them the world, but let them understand they are not of the world. 1John2:15, "Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in Him. For all that is in the world-the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life-is not of the Father but is of the world."
When you come together as parents, it will bring you closer together as husband and wife. Understand your roles as father and mother. You must come together in the raising of the child. In the area of children, proactive communication is critical. When children do something you have to react immediately. The luxuary of waiting for a specific meeting or even a phone call to your spouse is often not permitted. Therefore you must have already come together to discuss what you will each do as a team. If you and your spouse disagree or react differently your children will put you two against each other and play the lessor of two evils against you.
Children learn by example not by what comes out of your mouth. If they see you two acting unGodly in your marriage, then they will do the same when they get married. They will learn what marriage is supposed to be according to what they see you do in your marriage. Therefore, it is absolutely critical that you show them a God-driven marriage.
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
Be Professional Students of Marriage
A professional student is someone that continually is learning. We should be professional students of God, meaning that we sould always be striving to further develop our relationship with God. We are given a text book known as the Bible to teach us how marriage is supposed to be done according to God.
God created marriage, so as married couples we should always be finding ways to strengthen our marriage. We are to use the Bible as our main source. However it is also vitally important to not only do marital Bible study together as one but to bring in other resources as well.
Make sure that if you bring in other resources, they are extracted from the Bible. They can be retreats, videos, books, websites etc. They can jump start your love for each other by bringing it closer to today. Always be willing to communicate, express, and discus your marriage in a open and honest manner, keeping God at the forefront.
Todays marriage is under constant attack. When marriages fail, it has a direct affect on every other institution from education to financial to also fail. It is not a coincedence that when the divorce rate increased the quality of the educational system also failed and the world went into financial ruin.
There is no where in the Bible that says marriage is easy. In order for marriages to be successful, they must be worked on all of the time. Take the time to make sure that your marriage is healthy. Until people start working on their marriage none of the other institutions in the world will be successful. Give our children a chance to have something when they become adults. At the rate we are going now, we are not leaving our children with much.
In Isaiah 43:18-20, "Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing now it springs forth, do you no know it. I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert." If you are having troubles in your marriage, listen to God and let Him do a new thing and make a way in your wilderness.
If God can raise Jesus from the dead, then he can raise your marriage from the dead. Stay focused on God and he can and will bring life back to your marriage.
God created marriage, so as married couples we should always be finding ways to strengthen our marriage. We are to use the Bible as our main source. However it is also vitally important to not only do marital Bible study together as one but to bring in other resources as well.
Make sure that if you bring in other resources, they are extracted from the Bible. They can be retreats, videos, books, websites etc. They can jump start your love for each other by bringing it closer to today. Always be willing to communicate, express, and discus your marriage in a open and honest manner, keeping God at the forefront.
Todays marriage is under constant attack. When marriages fail, it has a direct affect on every other institution from education to financial to also fail. It is not a coincedence that when the divorce rate increased the quality of the educational system also failed and the world went into financial ruin.
There is no where in the Bible that says marriage is easy. In order for marriages to be successful, they must be worked on all of the time. Take the time to make sure that your marriage is healthy. Until people start working on their marriage none of the other institutions in the world will be successful. Give our children a chance to have something when they become adults. At the rate we are going now, we are not leaving our children with much.
In Isaiah 43:18-20, "Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing now it springs forth, do you no know it. I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert." If you are having troubles in your marriage, listen to God and let Him do a new thing and make a way in your wilderness.
If God can raise Jesus from the dead, then he can raise your marriage from the dead. Stay focused on God and he can and will bring life back to your marriage.
Friday, January 23, 2009
Practice Proactive Communication
The only mind reader is God, so please stop expecting your spouse to be a mind reader! Every great marriage has had some type of trial or tribulation. God places them in our lives so that we can give Him the glory and so He can show that He is God.
The difference is how do we handle it. Communication is absolutely critical in every relationship but can make or break your marriage. There are three basic types of communication 1.) Radioactive 2.) Reactive and 3.) Proactive.
Radioactive communication is a guaranteed argument waiting to happen. It is painful, detrimental, absolutely no intimacy, extremely tense. This is when you purposely stab each other in the back, pour salt on the wound, and intentionally try to hurt and place blame.
Reactive communication is when you react after something arises. Tension can rise because you are unprepared. If not dealt with it can turn into radioactive communication.
Proactive communication is when you communicate rationally, listening to each other, giving your opinion, taking each other's opinion into consideration. Communicating about something before it becomes a issue. You are fully prepared with no surprises. You come together in oneness.
You can't have a good marriage until you get rid of the radioactive and reactive communication. There should be absolutely nothing that you can't have proactive communication. When conflict arises, always go to the word of God. The Bible has the final word.
The difference is how do we handle it. Communication is absolutely critical in every relationship but can make or break your marriage. There are three basic types of communication 1.) Radioactive 2.) Reactive and 3.) Proactive.
Radioactive communication is a guaranteed argument waiting to happen. It is painful, detrimental, absolutely no intimacy, extremely tense. This is when you purposely stab each other in the back, pour salt on the wound, and intentionally try to hurt and place blame.
Reactive communication is when you react after something arises. Tension can rise because you are unprepared. If not dealt with it can turn into radioactive communication.
Proactive communication is when you communicate rationally, listening to each other, giving your opinion, taking each other's opinion into consideration. Communicating about something before it becomes a issue. You are fully prepared with no surprises. You come together in oneness.
You can't have a good marriage until you get rid of the radioactive and reactive communication. There should be absolutely nothing that you can't have proactive communication. When conflict arises, always go to the word of God. The Bible has the final word.
Don't Have Unrealistic Expectations
There are so many times that we come into marriage with so many unrealistic expectations of what defines what our spouse is supposed to do for us. A major reason for divorce is that we become disappointed when our spouse does not live up to our pre conceived idea of marriage. When this happens, it is based on the systems of the world and we therefore try to use the world's way to remendy the situation and we fail.
Just as when you receive an apparatus or equipment to put together, you also receive some sort of directions. If you don't follow the directions, then there are bound to be errors. If for example you have a piece of electronic equipment you do not use the instructions to put a desk together.
In Genesis 2:18 KJV, the Bible says, "And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone, I will make a help meet for him." If God created marriage, then we are to use His instruction manual, the Bible.
You have to be happy first as a person before you can enter into marriage. Don't expect marriage to complete you. It is imperative that you realize that you are complete in Jesus.
Know that you are worth fighting for and be sure to balance expectations realistically. Always go to the Bible to resolve any type of conflict. Keep excitement and adventure in your marriage.
Just as when you receive an apparatus or equipment to put together, you also receive some sort of directions. If you don't follow the directions, then there are bound to be errors. If for example you have a piece of electronic equipment you do not use the instructions to put a desk together.
In Genesis 2:18 KJV, the Bible says, "And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone, I will make a help meet for him." If God created marriage, then we are to use His instruction manual, the Bible.
You have to be happy first as a person before you can enter into marriage. Don't expect marriage to complete you. It is imperative that you realize that you are complete in Jesus.
Know that you are worth fighting for and be sure to balance expectations realistically. Always go to the Bible to resolve any type of conflict. Keep excitement and adventure in your marriage.
Monday, January 19, 2009
Happy Marriage Rules 101
In every marriage there will be trials and tribulations. The manner in which you deal with them will be the deciding factor of whether or not your marriage is Heaven on earth or Hell on earth.
Rule 1: Don't air out your dirty laundry. Keep the home private. Ephesians 5:31 says, " For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. When it comes to private issues they should not be shared with anyone outside of the marriage. This is especially true in times of conflict. The two of you may work past something, but someone else is still festering over it and continues to give it life.
Rule 2: Never stop dating. Keep the sparks flying that initially attracted you one another. Nothing is worse than getting bored and stuck in a rut. Continue going on dates and weekend getaways. Spend quality time with one another outside of the home. Make it a point to continue to learn something new about each other all of the time.
Rule 3: Try to out love and out give the other person. Agape love is so much more than what someone else can do for you. The more you love the more love the other will be will to give back to you. The same goes for giving. God knows how much we love him, by the way that we love our neighbor.
Rule 4: Don't keep any secrets. One of the worst things you can do is to keep secrets within your marriage. You are to be one flesh. How can you be one flesh, if you are hiding something. When you hide that means you have to lie, which leads to sin. Why would you want to invite sin into your marriage?
Rule 5: This is probably the most important and critical rule of them all. Seek God first at all times. Before you do, say, react, move or anything else always make sure that it is of God. Always be a credible witness in your conduct, character, and committment.
Rule 1: Don't air out your dirty laundry. Keep the home private. Ephesians 5:31 says, " For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. When it comes to private issues they should not be shared with anyone outside of the marriage. This is especially true in times of conflict. The two of you may work past something, but someone else is still festering over it and continues to give it life.
Rule 2: Never stop dating. Keep the sparks flying that initially attracted you one another. Nothing is worse than getting bored and stuck in a rut. Continue going on dates and weekend getaways. Spend quality time with one another outside of the home. Make it a point to continue to learn something new about each other all of the time.
Rule 3: Try to out love and out give the other person. Agape love is so much more than what someone else can do for you. The more you love the more love the other will be will to give back to you. The same goes for giving. God knows how much we love him, by the way that we love our neighbor.
Rule 4: Don't keep any secrets. One of the worst things you can do is to keep secrets within your marriage. You are to be one flesh. How can you be one flesh, if you are hiding something. When you hide that means you have to lie, which leads to sin. Why would you want to invite sin into your marriage?
Rule 5: This is probably the most important and critical rule of them all. Seek God first at all times. Before you do, say, react, move or anything else always make sure that it is of God. Always be a credible witness in your conduct, character, and committment.
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