Cleaving To One Another in Financial Turmoil

Once you become married to one another it is important that you realize that you marry into each others financial lives as well. Debt that you carried becomes your spouses debt and vice versa. Everything becomes "ours" whether it is good or bad. You must work through this together as one.

Make it a priority to come together in agreement on how the debt will be handled and paid off as one. You will have to sacrafice which leads to obedience to God. Proverbs 22:7 says, " The rich rules over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender." Therefore, it is imperative that you strive to pay off all debt. You should be a servant to God not a creditor.

Have a meeting where you can come up with a systematic plan of getting rid of the debt so that you do not have to be a servant. Learn how to pay for things with cash rather than credit. I know that there are some things such as your house that you most likely can not pay with cash, but the general rule should be to use cash only.

The Bible says in Matthew 6:33,"Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness and all these things will be added unto you." This can not and will not happen unless you seek God first. So be sure to pray over you financial situation and invite the Holy Spirit to lead you over your finances.

God can not "add unto you" until he first knows that you are a good steward over what he has already given to you.

Don't Have Unrealistic Expectations

There are so many times that we come into marriage with so many unrealistic expectations of what defines what our spouse is supposed to do for us. A major reason for divorce is that we become disappointed when our spouse does not live up to our pre conceived idea of marriage. When this happens, it is based on the systems of the world and we therefore try to use the world's way to remendy the situation and we fail.

Just as when you receive an apparatus or equipment to put together, you also receive some sort of directions. If you don't follow the directions, then there are bound to be errors. If for example you have a piece of electronic equipment you do not use the instructions to put a desk together.

In Genesis 2:18 KJV, the Bible says, "And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone, I will make a help meet for him." If God created marriage, then we are to use His instruction manual, the Bible.

You have to be happy first as a person before you can enter into marriage. Don't expect marriage to complete you. It is imperative that you realize that you are complete in Jesus.

Know that you are worth fighting for and be sure to balance expectations realistically. Always go to the Bible to resolve any type of conflict. Keep excitement and adventure in your marriage.