What To Do If Another Married Couple Comes To You For Counsel

There are times when another married couple will come to you for counsel. They may be able to see through your conduct, character, and commitment that the two of you can provide good counsel.

This is a touchy subject. There are a couple of ground rules that you should follow.
1.) Never do it alone. It should always be the four of you together and you should all be in agreement.

2.) Confidentiality is critical. They have trusted you with intimate details of their marriage. What they say or do must be kept strictly private.

3.) Do not judge them. You do not have that right, only God can judge. Remain objective, realistic and respectful at all times.

4.)Most importantly, keep it scriptual. Even if they are not believers, you know what is scriptual so stick to it and put it up in prayer.

Always remain true to your conduct, character, and commitment as you help them through this difficult time.

Be Your Spouses Cheerleader

I can't tell you how much it saddens me when I see spouses that don't show support for each other. The world makes it a point to down play your dreams, tell you that you are not good enough, that you were a mistake, that someone else can do it better. Be your a enormous cheerleader for your spouse. They should know that even though Philippians 4:11 says, "I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me." you believe in them as well.

When your spouse has doubt, take it to prayer and then to your spouse. Sometimes, they need a soft place to fall when times get tough. Get quiet and pray together as husband and wife. Your spouse should know that as long as they follow Jesus, you will follow them in their dreams. When your spouse comes to you always be there to uplift and encourage them to succeed. Don't place a value on it. Just because it might not make much sense financially, it can be God's plan as they do the work of the Lord. It is not up to you to put a value on it. God gave them that dream and you have absolutely no right to try to take that dream from them.

There will be times when you may not understand, or even like whatever it is that your spouse is dreaming. Newsflash! God gave it to your spouse not to you. God has given each of us hopes and dreams that are unique to us. Matthew 7:1, says "Judge not, that you will be not judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you." Therefore you do not have any right to be judgemental. Only God can judge. If it is not to be, then let God reveal and remove it. Then God can restore.

God purposed each one of us before the foundation of the earth. John 17:24, "You loved me before the foundation of the world." God intended for you as each other's spouse to have his voice within your marriage. Give back God his word in your marriage. God is not the author of failure. Always be your spouse's loudest, biggest, and boldest cheerleader!