Sometimes You Have To Let Your Spouse Fall

As hard as it is sometimes, as long as your spouse is not going to cause grave danger to your family you have to let them fall. God teaches throughout the Bible that we will fall from time to time because we are not perfect. We all know that Jesus was the only perfect man and we are continually being perfected.

Sometimes God is putting your spouse through something so that when he feels it is time He can bring them out of it. Then once they come out of it, they can see that only God can do it. Regardless of how much we love them, it is nothing in comparison to the way that God loves them.

Step back and allow God to work with them. When the come out of it, they will be much stronger as they build their relationship with the trinity of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit.

Let them know that you are there for them in the natural and that you will love them continuously with unconditional love. Let God be God.

Dealing With The Major Decisions

Throughout the course of life, there are times when you have to make major decisions that will affect your marriage. These definitely deserve time for deep conversation and time for each of you to come together in prayer both on your own and together.

There always should be a format that is used for these type of decisions.

1.) Seek counsel from the trinity.

Go to the trinity of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit first and foremost. Let them guide you in your final decision. Be careful of counsel from outside sources. If you do seek outside counsel be sure that it is Godly and not just someone else's opinion.

2.) Focus on the final outcome and not on the course, by counting the costs.

Be sure the outcome is what is best for your family and marriage in the long run. Just because the course looks attractive or fun, it may no be what is in the best interest of your family and marriage.

3.) Do not rush into anything.

These decisions take time to really consider and to put up in prayer. Make sure they are done in God's time and not your own. If you don't know what to do, then it is better to do nothing than to rush and do the wrong thing. God will tell you what to do when He wants you to do it.

Remember God is soverign and reveal what he wants to you, when you need it. You can't rush God. Matthew 7:24 teaches us to build our house on the rock of Jesus and your house will not fall."

Fellowship With Other Married Couples

It is important to fellowship with other married couples. It is not to say that once you become married that you can't socialize with singles. However, you do have to be careful in the sense that often times singles are attempting to find a mate and often times are not faithful to one person.

They may try to get you to do the same and cheat on your spouse. Also many single friends that have been burned or can not find a potential spouse will often times try to interfere with your marriage. They will make you see issues that may not really exist.

However, there are many single friends that will continue to uplift and will show full support for your marriage and know their limits in terms of your relationship with them.

Fellowship with other married couples that are saved and baptized with the Holy Spirit and they can continue to inspire you to grow in your relationship with the trinity.

Understand Each Others Strengths and Weaknesses

When God created marriages, he made it so that opposites attract,where one is weaker the other is stronger and vice versa. We can only use what we have, we can not use what we do not have whether it is in life, especially within your marriage.

In 2 Corinthians 8:12-14 says, " For if there is first a willing mind, it is accepted according to what one has, and not according to what he does not have. For I do not mean that others should be eased and your burdened, but by an equality that now at this time your abundance may supply their lack, and that their abundance also may supply your lack-that there may be equality." Each spouse needs to allow the other to use what they have. When you try to use something that you do not have, then you will open the door to difficulty and conflict.

As long as each of you continue to walk in what you have to the utmost as you seek God, then God will do the rest. Remember there is nothing that is impossible for God. Philippians 4:13 says, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." and if you keep reading down to Philippians 4:19, it reads "And my God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus."

When you come to God in weakness, God can show his power in your situation and/or circumstance. When you develop your relationship with the trinity and give God the glory, God will restore you more quickly. When you turn from the trinity, God can not trust you with his power and He will prove to be sovereign.

Build your relationship not only with God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, but also with your spouse. Don't spin your wheels trying to do something when you don't have it. The key is to use what you do have and for your spouse to use what they have to the fullest and allow God to do the rest.

What a Wife Needs from her Husband

Godly women want their husbands to be a man of Godly conduct, character, and commitment. Godly women want to know that their husband is strongly rooted in the word of God. In Ephesians 5:25 it says, "Husbands, love your wives , just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her." This is a tremendous charge for the husbands. This means that husbands are to give themselves to their wives as Christ gave himself to the church.

The most important quality that a man wants from his wife is honor. In order for honor present itself, husbands must not try to force it onto their wife. Godly wives want their husbands to make things right in the home. They want leadership and security for themselves and their familly. There are three main characteristics that every husband should possess. They are prophet, priest, and savior head.

To be a prophet they diligently seek a relationship with the trinity of God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. This is where the responsibility of initiating prayer and bringing the entire family closer to the trinity lays.

To be a priest means that husbands senitivilly and sacrafically gives for his wife's needs and helps her deal with spiritual, financial, mental, emotional and family needs. Men in general are extremely sensitive to their own needs and need to show that same sensitivity to the needs of their wife.

Ephesians 5:23, "For the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ is the head of he church, and He is the savior of the body." Husbands be the Savior head in your family. Anyone in the family should be able to come to you to get a understanding of the word. They should know that you will provide leadership according to the word of God.

When husbands live according to these charges according to the word of God, then their wives will florish. It will allow wives to fulfil their gifts and live their lives according to the plan and purpose of God.