Let Your Past Be Your Past

When you say those words, "I do" to your spouse you are to become one with them. In Matthew 19:6, "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. Therefore, what God hath joined together, let no man put asunder." Let go of the old flames from your past. Yes we all know that unless we grew up together and have never had a relationship with another person we had lives. Although that is possible it is very rare.

Don't constantly compare your current spouse to your past exes. Let your joy come from whom you are with in the present. Especially if you are continuously talk about all of the great memories that you shared with your ex, you run the danger of making your current spouse feel that they are not measuring up and that you would rather be with your ex. On the other hand, if you continuously talk about how bad it was with your ex, you run the danger of making your current spouse feel that they are still paying for the exes mistakes.

Build new memories with your current spouse. Besides God, your family should be the center of your world. In Romans 8 we are taught that we are not to condemn others. Don't bring up the past as punishment. Take differences for what they are in the present situation at hand. Go to the Bible as a guide. In Romans 13:1, " Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God."

Live for today while you prepare for your future. Leave the past where it belongs, in the past. Isaiah 43:18, Behold, I shall do a new thing. It shall spring forth." Let God do a new thing in your marriage. The only problem that will present itself, is if you stay in the past.