In every marriage there will be trials and tribulations. The manner in which you deal with them will be the deciding factor of whether or not your marriage is Heaven on earth or Hell on earth.
Rule 1: Don't air out your dirty laundry. Keep the home private. Ephesians 5:31 says, " For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. When it comes to private issues they should not be shared with anyone outside of the marriage. This is especially true in times of conflict. The two of you may work past something, but someone else is still festering over it and continues to give it life.
Rule 2: Never stop dating. Keep the sparks flying that initially attracted you one another. Nothing is worse than getting bored and stuck in a rut. Continue going on dates and weekend getaways. Spend quality time with one another outside of the home. Make it a point to continue to learn something new about each other all of the time.
Rule 3: Try to out love and out give the other person. Agape love is so much more than what someone else can do for you. The more you love the more love the other will be will to give back to you. The same goes for giving. God knows how much we love him, by the way that we love our neighbor.
Rule 4: Don't keep any secrets. One of the worst things you can do is to keep secrets within your marriage. You are to be one flesh. How can you be one flesh, if you are hiding something. When you hide that means you have to lie, which leads to sin. Why would you want to invite sin into your marriage?
Rule 5: This is probably the most important and critical rule of them all. Seek God first at all times. Before you do, say, react, move or anything else always make sure that it is of God. Always be a credible witness in your conduct, character, and committment.
Monday, January 19, 2009
Choose Your Mate Wisely
Life is full of decisions, whether it is something simple or complex. We make decisions from the time we get up to the time that we go to bed. However, there are some major life decisions that we must take considerable time otherwise they can mean devastation if we are not careful.
It is critical to understand that life decisions are long lasting and life changing. The number one decision that you will make in life is that of you will marry. The word of God, teaches that God hates divorce. In Genesis 2:18, says that"It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." Then in Matthew 19:6, the Bible says, "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
We are therefore not to always seek God first and foremost in our lives. When you have to put something together or assemble something, you are provided with a instruction manual. When you choose to do it your way, something is almost guaranteed to be incorrect. Use the Bible as your instruction manual for your marriage. God created the institution of marriage, so he should be your source of what to do at all times.
When you follow the system of the world in your marriage, you are taking a gamble. Why would you want to gamble with someone else's life? Why would you want to put your own relationship with God at risk?
Choose someone that you are equally yolked. Choose your spouse based on God and how you see Jesus in them.
It is critical to understand that life decisions are long lasting and life changing. The number one decision that you will make in life is that of you will marry. The word of God, teaches that God hates divorce. In Genesis 2:18, says that"It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." Then in Matthew 19:6, the Bible says, "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
We are therefore not to always seek God first and foremost in our lives. When you have to put something together or assemble something, you are provided with a instruction manual. When you choose to do it your way, something is almost guaranteed to be incorrect. Use the Bible as your instruction manual for your marriage. God created the institution of marriage, so he should be your source of what to do at all times.
When you follow the system of the world in your marriage, you are taking a gamble. Why would you want to gamble with someone else's life? Why would you want to put your own relationship with God at risk?
Choose someone that you are equally yolked. Choose your spouse based on God and how you see Jesus in them.
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