What To Do When You Fall Out of Love

Unfortuanately, I hear many married couples say that they have simply fallen out of love with their spouse. This is very sad and although difficult to come back from it can be done. This happens because although you give plenty of lip service to the fact that we have unconditional love for our spouse, we really do not. We may want to believe it, but don't actually believe in our hearts.

We are still prone to the world's definition of love, which states that we love according to how we are treated, their ways, how they make us feel etc. Unconditional love in it's purest form doesn't take any of these into consideration. Also notice in the Bible, no where does God command the wife to love her husband. However in Ephesians 5 God commands husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church.

Here are a couple of suggestions to get the love back in your marriage.
1. Get back to the romance. Even if it seems strange or uncomfortable, it will begin to feel natural as time goes on.

2. Get in your Bibles, together and study every scripture on marriage according to God.

3. Fellowship with other married couples that are righteous in their conduct, character and commitment.

4. Spend time together as a couple and continue dating.

Listen to your spirit and invite the Holy Spirit into your marriage to guide, direct, teach you how to have the instition of marriage as God intended.

Romance Is Key

Romance is key within your marriage. How romantic a couple is during the course of their marriage is a true testament to how much they are in love. When a husband does something romantic for his wife for absolutely no reason at all without any hints dropped by his wife, it can do wonders for their marriage.

What husbands may consider cheesy or corny women consider sweet and romantic. It shows wives that their husbands are willing to pay careful and close attention to the little details. Women are genetically coded to be more feeling, emotional, and the ambiance of their environment are important to them.

Many husbands may not appreciate a candlelight dinner the same way a wife would, but just spending time watching sports on television with him, may be what he wants. Ask your spouse what a perfect night alone with you would look like. You may not be able to re-inact the evening completely, but you can make a effort to come as close as possible. Husbands, your wife might tell you a dinner at a cafe in Paris on a terrace. You might not get to Paris, but you can arrange for a nice candle light dinner in the backyard under the stars with some soft music to dance the night away.